Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Of rings and falling plans

Wanted to do a quick update before I get to bed.

1) After much consideration, and listening to everything you all had to say, and what my instincts told me, I sold my rings today.  I did get more money than expected for them, and I'm satisfied.  It was a little bit sad, but it was good to let them go and to move forward.  :-)  I took some of the money and bought my plane ticket home for Christmas and got an awesome price since it's so early!

2) SC and I had plans to go bowling again tonight.  I touched base last night to confirm we had plans, and he said, "Yup, we're going bowling!"  So I planned on it.  My day was chaotic and busy and I booked it home to eat something then head to the gym so I could get home in time to clean up and head back out.  I messaged SC while at the gym since I had been in such a rush to set a departure time.

He told me that he was warning me in advance he didn't feel fantastic, and had just woken up from a fitful couple hours of sleep to try to liven up.  I told him to just stay home, he insisted at first he wanted to go.  Then he waffled and I told him to just stay home.  He agreed that was best, and there went my plans.

Monday he fell asleep.  Wednesday he doesn't feel well.  Both times he's made comments about how he missed out on seeing me, or that he really wanted to see me.  Tonight he said something about "next wednesday is so far away", and I reminded him that we could try to do something this weekend

At this point I don't know if he's blowing me off or if these are just two legit random things that have come up.  All I know is that I invited him over Monday.  I asked about tonight. I followed up with him about tonight, and I mentioned the weekend.  Now it's his turn.  I'm frustrated because I feel like I've been making an effort and I keep ending up empty handed here, you know?  I guess we'll just see how it goes.

3) Artboy free day.  Every change has to start somewhere.



  1. It may be just a fluke, I would keep talking to him, but don't suggest hanging out, he needs to ask you, set up plans, etc.

  2. @Danielle: I'm not writing him off yet, but I'm getting a little annoyed, I have to say. Like you said, ball is in his court now.

  3. OMG OMG I am SO proud of you. YAY!!! I'm serious. I was so happy when I read this.

    As for SC. He could just be tired and run down at the moment. But if you're the only one making the effort it's hard to feel positive about it. Give him some more time but if it keeps up just be honest with him about what it's making you think.


  4. @Ash: Thank you! It was a good day for me, in terms of doing some things that were good for me.

    We'll see about SC...

  5. Yep. So excited you got rid of those things!!! That is one less thing to remind you and you got money out of it - even better!!!

    I don't know, dude. I woke up feeling pretty crappy this morning and it's likely due to the drastic weather changes so he could be legit feeling badly. Still, let him reach out next.

    1. @Ames: Maybe about SC. He's just not impressing me.

    2. If he's not impressing you then let him go. Don't try to force something you're not feeling. And letting it drag on isn't fair to either of you.

  6. Bluemoon, before you write off SC completely, you might want to have a read of my comment on Ash's post from Sept 18. I'm not saying this is what is going on with SC because I don't know him, but it's something to consider.

    I'm pretty happy my wife didn't write me off too early...

    1. Hey Elliott! Welcome to my blog, glad to see you commenting! I have to say that I really think this time SC is just not what I hoped he was going to be. I'm going to post about it this morning, but I think we've mutually decided to let it go.

      I read your post on Ash's blog, though, and I have to say that it is a little reassuring in a way, even after I just had ANOTHER lackluster date last night. :)