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Wednesday, May 20, 2015

Moving on Up (to the 8th Floor)

So this week at work has been a fun and crazy mess in preparation for my department's move up to the 8th Floor.  I am scheduled to be moved at 9 am tomorrow morning, so I packed up the last of my things today.  When I come in tomorrow I'll be going to the new office and getting everything situated!

I haven't posted since my trip to Omaha.  It was a great success!  BF finally got to meet my family.  I think he made a really good impression as I've heard nothing but raves from various relatives since getting back home.  He may not be the over the top charmer of my past guys, but he is much more real and he did such a good job getting to know the various relatives.  My mom loved him and was so glad to finally meet him, and I definitely feel like a puzzle piece that was missing is in place now.  :-)

I enjoyed getting to show him the city where I was born and raised, and pointing out my schools and various other locations of interest as we moved around the city.  The family reunion weekend entailed a lot of eating, as well as the fabulous Henry Doorly Zoo.  We spent some lower key time with my brother and his wife, and it was all just really lovely!

I'm very much looking forward to the long holiday weekend.  We don't have a ton of definite plans, though we do intend to get to a Washington Nationals game on Saturday with my friend, A.  BF hasn't been to a Nats game before (!!!) and so I'm excited to share that experience with him.  We're hoping to get my Firm's tickets as they are awesome (and free!), but we're going either way.  Weather is currently predicted to be pretty nice, seventies and sunny!  Beyond that I predict erranding, maybe a movie, and definitely some grilling!

J isn't coming this weekend.  She's got negative interest in sports and this would have been her half weekend, anyway.  We'll miss her, but we'll get her the full weekend the following weekend!  I admit to selfishly looking forward to a full long weekend at home with BF, just the two of us.  :-)  I just love that extra time, with nice weather, and nothing to do but whatever we want!

Tonight I'm considering running some solo errands to a) avoid Memorial Day weekend crowds and b) enjoy my own leisurely pace of shopping without feeling like I'm dragging BF along with me.  :-D  I need to re-up on super exciting things like a nude-colored bra and also new underwear.  I'm also on the hunt for some workout shorts that are fitted, but not insanely short or obscenely tight.  In other words...a unicorn!  I also feel like some Target wandering time would not be out of the question! We'll see how motivated I feel once I wrap up this work day and get my commute knocked out, though.

I hope everyone is having a really lovely week!  Anyone have any fun weekend plans on tap?

Monday, May 4, 2015

Three Day Work Week

So it's a Monday, but I'm not feeling too bummed about it since I'm only working through Wednesday this week.  :-)  I'm a little tired thanks to two consecutive migraine nights, though. Saturday night was a slow builder that led to me taking two Benadryl before bed in addition to a bunch of Advil.  I still had to get up early and take a migraine pill, but I went back to bed and slept in until 11:30. Thanks, Benadryl!

Last night I went to bed with a dull headache and woke up around 3:45 am with a pounder.  I made my way downstairs to get new ice packs and a granola bar to eat since I need something on my stomach with that migraine pill.  I think it's a double whammy effect of hormones and allergies.  :-/

I'm really hoping that I get a break during this work week because I only have four migraine pills left until the middle of next month, and I definitely want some on hand for the weekend.  I will not have my trip home tainted by a migraine if I can help it!

After I went back to sleep around 4, I had what felt like a huge, long, crazy dream.  The details are fuzzy now, but I think it was basically an anxiety dream about introducing BF to my friends and family in a few days.  I've never dated someone this long without them meeting my family, so I guess it feels like it has a bigger build up!  In some respects I will be glad to just get it over with.  :-p

Plans are coming together for Omaha, which is good.  I'm hoping I can fit everything in that I want to do while also working around all the family events.  I would like to show BF some additional Omaha spots because who knows when he'll come home with me again!  Plane tickets there are so pricy for someone who is not family-bound to visit.  ;-)  Crossing my fingers for good weather because I want to go to the zoo for sure, and lots of our plans are outdoor oriented.

Weekend was nice!  Friday night I met BF and J at a new to us pizza place for dinner after work.  The food was really good, so we were happy!  J requested to ride back to the house with me, so we got a chance to chat on the drive back.  We then ended up sitting in the driveway for over an hour talking, which was pretty awesome.  She really opened up to me a lot, and it was such a good conversation.  I'm walking a fine line between letting her know I'm there for her if she needs me, but not trying to overstep my bounds or rub her mom the wrong way.  I'm not her mom and I'm not pretending to be, but I am her friend and we feel like family at this point.  I think in many ways I'm an easy outlet for her because I'm an adult female who's involved enough, but not so involved as to be her mom.

She told me, amongst other things, that her mom really likes me and is really happy for BF that he found someone like me.  She said he seems happier and that makes things easier.  J also basically told me that she really likes our little family, and again made reference to her being like my kid.  She told me that she was glad her dad was finally dating someone sane, and that she thinks his less than stellar relationship tenures in the past were because he didn't care enough to make it work with the past people for varying reasons---one was too lazy (no job, didn't try to find one), some were crazy, one was rude to J.  We talked about how, in spite of the fact that he bugs her and is a dork sometimes, she is very lucky that he loves her so much and wants her to be involved and not feel left out and to be engaged during her time with us.  We talked about how his frustrations with her mostly stem from him simply not understanding what to do with a teenaged girl. :-D

She also talked to me about feeling like her mom is too free- rein with her.  She gave an example of last week when she skipped gym glass.  She told her mom via iMessage she was going to skip and her mom said something along the lines of, "I'm not here to tell you to go to class, that's your responsibility."  J said that if her mom had told her to go, she would have gone. She said that sometimes she wants and needs that guidance and is the type that will listen if told.  She also talked about figuring out her schedule next year, and how her mom told her to figure it out on her own.  She's been really into drama, but isn't sure she wants to remain focused on that next year.  She's considering getting into writing with a creative writing class, but said that she's very indecisive and sometimes wishes she could get some advice.  I told her that anytime she wants to talk about that kind of stuff, I'm around, even if it's just to have a sounding board to work the decisions out on her own.

I'm trying so hard to be there for her, but not to overstep.  When she was expressing frustration with her mom, in particular about still not having gotten her phone back from two months ago, I tried to explain her mom's point of view, or what I guessed it to be.  Her mom is reacting with anger and punishment to what I see as hurt feelings, and J couldn't see that at first.  I tried to explain that it's easier to just be mad sometimes than to admit your feelings are hurt, and she seemed to consider that more.

We talked about a lot of stuff, and she was just so open with me.  When talking about her grounding, she said something along the lines of, "I think I'm a pretty good kid.  I don't drink, I don't smoke pot, do drugs, I don't have sex (because no one likes me, but whatever)."  Ugh, that killed me!  I totally believe her, too.  She IS a good kid.

Anyway, it was a really good talk.  She let me know that she thinks it would be "so cute" if BF and I got married, and how glad she is we get along.  She is such a bright, insightful girl and hearing her take on BF's past, our current relationship and everything else was just awesome.

MOVING ON from that huge tangent, LOL...Saturday was nice, though busy.  The three of us ran errands until about 3pm.  We came home and made a buffalo chicken dip for the evening, and once J left around 5 it wasn't long before we went to the fight party at his friend's house.  It was actually a really fun night and I felt like I got to know a couple of people a lot better this time around.  We didn't get home until about 1 am because of how late the fight was, and we crashed pretty quickly.

Sunday was the grocery store and then grilling lunch and using BF's new smoker for dinner.  It was our first try at the smoker and it showed...we didn't eat until about 9:45pm.  It tasted awesome, though!

This week should be manageable.  Tonight will be dinner (mahi mahi burgers) and the gym, then hopefully an hour or to of relaxing before bedtime.  Tomorrow night will be quesadillas for dinner in honor of Cinco de Mayo, ha, and gym again.  Wednesday night dinner (sausage and peppers) and, you guessed it, gym!  Thursday we'll hopefully be sleeping in a little, then packing and getting ready for trip.  I want to pick up some flowers for J on the way to her play, and then we get to watch her show!  Friday we're off to Omaha!

Should be a good week, which will be a nice follow up to a really lovely weekend!






Friday, May 1, 2015

May Day

I cannot believe it's already the first day of May!  Unfortunately, it's in the fifties and gray so far today, with a high only in the mid sixties with rain chances.  Hopefully tomorrow will begin the upswing of some nicer weather that lasts more than a day at a time.

A year ago this weekend BF and I packed up for a trip to a cabin in Luray, Virginia.  It was such a great first getaway together.  This was also the trip where we said our first "I love yous".  :-)  Good memories!  We've come a long way since then.  It's been a year and four months on Sunday since we started this crazy adventure together.  :-)

I'm so glad it's Friday.  I'm definitely (and always) ready for the weekend.  Turns out we have J all weekend again, I guess since we'll be out of town next weekend.  That was a last minute change as of this morning.  Tonight we're going to a new-ish pizza place for dinner.  Tomorrow we have some errands to run before the Caps game is on in the early afternoon.  We will close out the night at a friend of BF's house to eat, drink and eventually watch the Pacquio-Mayweather fight.  J will be hanging solo at the house for that portion of the weekend since we already had the plans before this change and she would be terminally bored there.  Sunday will be any errands we couldn't get done in our limited time Saturday, and then the usual relaxation and chores.

I'm super excited that I only have a three day work week next week.  We both took Thursday off to sleep in a little, get packed and have some time to get to J's play without it being a huge rush.  I'm looking forward to her show, as they're always really fun to watch.  I'm less excited about getting up at the crack of dawn a week from today, but the payoff is that we'll be in Omaha a few hours later!

Got to see my new office yesterday.  Really nice space and I'm pretty happy with it.  Our department isn't getting moved until the end of the month, but I'm relieved that a) I still have an office and b) it's a nice one.  Still get to keep my awesome alley view window, but at least it will be from the 8th floor instead of the 2nd now. ;-)

Better get back to the Friday grind.  Hopefully the day will go by quickly!



Monday, April 27, 2015

Right Now

Stealing a page from So Midwestern, I'm posting in the form of a list today.

Right now I am-

  • On the downhill slide of a migraine triggered by allergies.  Thank god for little magic migraine pills, but boo to insurance companies who tell me I can only have six a month, at least that they will pay for.
  • Frustrated with my temporary clerk for becoming unreliable and flighty in her last couple of weeks of employment with us.
  • Anxious to wrap this work day and enjoy my quiet commute home on the bus.
  • Looking forward to the chicken tortilla soup BF made today on his telework day for our dinner.
  • Excited to relax and watch Dancing with the Stars and maybe close out the night with a bath.
  • Loving my new phone, the Samsung Galaxy S6, which I got late last week.  So sleek and shiny and new, I am really happy with it.  
  • Super into "Orphan Black".  I'm partially through episode 8 of a 10 episode first season.  It's such an excellent show.  Not sure if I'll move on to Season 2 or break it up by finally watching House of Cards Season 3 next.
  • Also wanting to watch The Jinx on HBO On Demand as well as wanting to check out "Bloodline", another new Netflix show.  
  • Pondering how to spend the $125 I got on Amex Gift Cards as a result of Staff Appreciation last week.  I'm not going to spend them just to spend them, but I am curious as to what will emerge as worthwhile of their use!  $100 was the standard staff gift, and $25 was for being part of the 2nd place Scavenger Hunt team, which was one of our team-building events for the week.
  • Wondering when spring will finally get here and stick around.  Fifties and gray today, with warm up to sixties this week before another brief cool down.  Maybe some warm weather this weekend, but who knows at this point.
  • Getting excited for Omaha, as it is less than two weeks away now. :-)  Can't wait to take BF home with me to show him my hometown and finally have him meet my people!
  • Glad to have my gym to go work out in tonight.  Utilizing my free session with the personal trainer tomorrow night to get a workout routine specific to their equipment.  Goal is to go 5 times this week.
  • Already looking forward to the weekend.  Errands, including exchanging two shirts I bought for BF for a different size (HA!) and then going to the house of a friend of his for a Kentucky Derby & Mayweather vs. Pacquio viewing party.  Not particularly interested in any of the events, but I look forward to the chance to socialize with everyone when I'm not feeling awful and voice-less like I was at the Ugly Sweater party in December!  Also, the NFL draft, which is interesting.
  • Really happy with my life.  :-)  Really loving my boyfriend.  And my cats.  And his daughter, who, when I explained that I hadn't seen all the Disney movies because I don't have kids, said, "Well, now you have me so we need to watch them all!"  Similar to something she said before, but I think those little things will make me happy every time I hear them.
  • Counting down the last 20 minutes until I leave for the day!

Wednesday, April 22, 2015

Love Languages are a real thing--Go figure!

Recently two people I know have gotten engaged.  One of them may read this blog and the engagement came after a long, thoughtful, fully involved relationship.  They dated, they moved in together, they got engaged.  The second is a friend from college who was also the best man in my wedding.  He met this woman last summer, they bought a house in January, and got engaged in late March.  This morning I got a Facebook Save the Date Event Invite for their Valentine's Day 2016 wedding.  This will be the second marriage for both of my friends, and they both have two kids as well.

Beyond this, my ex-H has told me that he has an engagement ring for his girlfriend, and is likely proposing soon.  They're going on a trip to Italy in early May and I'd be shocked if he didn't come home engaged.  They've been dating for about a year with her living in NYC and him in DC, with the goal of her moving here this summer. In summation, this has been the year of love and marriage around me, or at least engagements.

FACT:  All of this is a hard pill to swallow.  However, and I hope this goes without saying, I'm so happy for all of my friends who have found love and found someone they want to commit themselves to.  I'm especially happy for those friends who have tried before only to have it not work out, yet have managed to open themselves back up to the possibility and have been rewarded with new, better love. This provides me with all kinds of hope that second chances are a real thing, and that we really can learn from our past experiences and mistakes and make better choices as a result.

So on one hand you have all of these new relationships, engagements and marriages, both pending and recent.  On the other hand, you have me and my relationship.

"Getting married will happen at some point.  Who knows when after only a year." - Thing BF said to me today in a conversation about this very topic.

I don't know why all of these engagements and weddings are bringing up such weird emotional baggage for me.  I dated my now ex-husband for 4+ years before we got engaged.  We were engaged for a year before getting married.  We were married for 6 years before we separated, 7 by the time of the divorce.  I put my time into that relationship.  Aside from the fact that we were only in our early twenties when we got married, everything looked good on paper.  We didn't rush anything.  We took our time.  Look how that turned out.

Meanwhile I have friends who have met someone, fallen in love and gotten engaged very quickly.  In spite of my initial skepticism, some remain very happy to this day.  Others have struggled more, and are still reasonably happy, though they have expressed regret over how quickly they moved in the process at various points.

Bottom line?  There is no universal answer.  Everyone's relationship is different.  People feel comfortable making big choices at different points, and that's OK.  The only real necessary match on that issue is between the two people in the relationship.  This is where I worry about my current relationship.

"Things will happen when they happen.  It's not like it's been 4 years."

I keep insisting there's no way I'd stick around for four years at this point in my life without an indication of marriage.  Why?  I don't know.

That's right.  I have a really strong conviction about something, but no real explanation for why. Is it because the world tells me that marriage is how you prove your commitment?  Because everyone else is doing it?  Because I did it once and I was good at it, even if my spouse wasn't?  Because that's just what you do after you date for a certain period of time?  Maybe it's for all of those reasons, or none of them.  I have no idea.  I've just always felt, ever since my marriage ended, that I knew I wanted to do it again.  I always assumed I would.

I feel a little bit bad for BF.  He pointed out, rightly so, that we have this same conversation every time one of my friends gets married or engaged.  This is true, though I wish it weren't.  The fact of it makes me feel very cliched-girl, and I hate that.  I don't want to be that person pushing someone into marriage.  I don't want to feel compelled to do something for some ambiguous reason.  I don't want to get caught up in the engagement and wedding fever just for the sake of having something to get worked up about.

There's a fine line between being able to have an open discussion about your future with your partner and beating a dead horse, so to speak.  Because BF is not necessarily someone who would seek out marriage if it didn't matter to his partner, I do feel like it's OK for me to do a status check every six months or so, just to make sure we're still on the same page.  I do want to get remarried eventually, which he has always known, and I wouldn't be with him if I didn't see that potential in us.  So confirming that every now and again seems fair.  He knows where I stand.  He knows what I want in my future.  I have to continue trusting that he would not lead me on if he didn't see the potential for those things with me.

His mind is such a different animal than mine.  When we talk, it's so surprising at times how straightforward his thinking is.  My mind is a complicated pool of what ifs and maybes and it's all tangled up with emotion and feelings.  So many of his responses to me are just so matter of fact. Example:  I said something about how different we are in terms of what would basically be considered our love languages.  I'm very affectionate and vocally direct about it when I love someone.  I tell him I love him when the thought crosses my mind, which is fairly often. I don't do it out of habit, I do make an effort to say it only when I'm really thinking it.

He's more of a person who shows you by small actions and gestures. He's never going to be the guy posting on FB to declare how wonderful his beautiful GF is (like my brother does).  He's never going to be the guy to gush over me in a group setting.  He's also never going to be the guy who is all over me in public.  He's not going to hold my hand all the time or give me a bunch of quick kisses on a street corner. He doesn't constantly seek me out physically when we're watching TV or sports.

Instead, he's the guy who will buy me flowers on my first day of a new commute from a new house. He's the guy who will curl up next to me some nights in bed and nuzzle up to me.  He's the guy who will absently place his hand across my back when we're out with friends.  The guy who will casually, almost without thinking, caress my hand when we're sitting together. The guy who learned that greeting cards matter to me, and thusly now gets me the sweetest, cutest cards and writes truly sincere messages in them.  He's the person who doesn't initiate saying "I love you" constantly, but when he does say it, it feels incredibly sincere and meaningful.

I've dated (and married, and divorced) and broken up with the charmer.  The big personality.  The guy who can acclimate to any group setting with no problem, the guy everyone loves.  In the end, those people failed me.  Their larger than life "public" personas didn't fully match who they were when everyone else was gone and it was just the two of us.  Ex-H was emotionally detached by the time we split.  He couldn't connect with me on any real level.  If anything, I drove myself crazy trying to get him to react to anything at all to prove he was even present in our relationship.

Angry Ex was the charmer, too.  But when it was just the two of us he carefully tore me down.  He helped me isolate myself from my friends, and he lashed out at me with everything he had when challenged. He was manipulative and condescending and mean as often as he was charming and funny and easy to get along with.

Today while talking about all of this with BF, I mentioned how different he was from anyone I've dated before, and how sometimes it's hard for me to immediately translate his actions into declarations of love and commitment since they are so subtle and small.   I told him that sometimes, no matter how silly it sounds, I just want to know he loves me as much as I love him. How I worry in weak moments that I love him more, or am more invested, and thusly more at risk in the relationship.

"I wouldn't be with you and living with you if that were the case."

So simple.  He burrows right down through my crazy and responds so matter-of-factly.  Sometimes  I really wish my brain worked that way.  I do recognize there is great value in being emotionally in tuned with things, and seeing things that way, but I do know that sometimes it leads to these overreactions and moments of heightened sensitivity for me.  In certain moments I definitely envy the ability to deal with things primarily via logic, though I would never sacrifice my crazy mind just to be logical.  ;-)

I started rambling to him that I don't even know why I want to get re-married sometimes since it didn't work out the first time, that maybe it's better to just be happy with where things are, to stay until you don't want to anymore.  I declared that I needed to stop worrying about pointless things.  He responded that it wasn't pointless and that he was pretty open minded on how things will go with us. I said that basically sounded like the "Stay until you don't want to" philosophy and that maybe that was the smarter, simpler way to go.

"Well, I haven't taken anything off the table, except not being with you."

<3

I'm going to cool my jets with all of this marriage business.  When I'm not being bombarded with engagement announcements and wedding invites, I'm so happy in my relationship.  I have confidence in our future, even if I don't know exactly how it will unfold.  We talk about our future, we plan for it, and that's usually enough.  It should be enough!

I need to take a step back and remember that other people's relationships are their own.  People move at their own pace based on their own personalities and experiences.  Our pace is maybe slower than some around us right now, and yet maybe faster than others.  Who knows. But it's obviously working out well enough.  We laugh all the time.  We talk about our future.  We're still very attracted to each other. Moving in together has been such a great step for us and is going so well.  These are all good things that I should be focusing on!

Maybe at some point if things don't progress naturally it will have to come up again.  I truly don't want to be dating for years without knowing that a marriage is in the works.  BF knows that. But right now...it's been just shy of a year and four months.  We've been living together for just shy of two months.  We *are* progressing.  We're fully immersing ourselves in each step, and making sure it still works and still feels right before moving forward again.  For now I want to enjoy living together, enjoy being together, and enjoy looking forward to our future together.  No more keeping up with the marrying Joneses.  ;-)  Bluemoon & Bluefish at Casa Blue with J on the weekends and two cats all the time?  This simple setup makes me happy EVERY.SINGLE.DAY.  It's time to allow myself to enjoy it without letting any internal or external pressure take away from it.

Tuesday, April 21, 2015

Benadryl is my BFF

This is the time of year where the prettier it gets outside, the more my allergies kick my ass. Everything is blooming and going green and it's so lovely, but so miserable on my poor sinuses. Yesterday turned out to be a pretty warm, muggy day, so the house was toasty when we went to bed. We ended up opening one of the bedroom windows to get some air moving, as well as having the fan on in the room.  It helped cool things down a bit, but I woke up at least three times overnight and by the time I actually got up, I had a pretty pounding headache.  I took a Benadryl because it works better than my Claritin in a pinch, and I knew I had an hour bus ride in to work through the sleepies Benadryl brings. It packed a real punch and I was exhausted on the ride in.  But on the upside, my headache cleared out and I felt human again.  Cheers for that!

My ongoing to-do list is shockingly small right now.  I'm pretty caught up on most things that need to be done, which is a nice change.  My main annoyance right now is that I have to get to the Post Office because my old gym requires notification via Certified Mail to terminate membership. LAME. I typed up my notice letter yesterday and will likely be going over my lunch hour just to get this done.  While out, I plan to pick up an RX refill at CVS, get another Burt's Bees Tinted Lip Balm for my purse, and maybe swing by Robek's for a smoothie.  We had a giant breakfast at work today in honor of Staff Appreciation, and it was fabulous, but requires a much smaller lunch as a result.  ;-)

Got to the gym last night even though I'd just worked through a migraine on my way home (again, THANKS, ALLERGIES).  Did 40-45 minutes of cardio and called it a night even though I'd wanted to get some strength training in.  Hopefully I'll be able to get a more complete workout tonight, ie 30 minutes cardio and 30 minutes strength/weights.  BF is going to be uber consumed by sports tonight, as the local baseball, basketball and hockey teams are all playing this evening.  That's a little much for me, so I will definitely not be sad to cut out for some gym time in the midst of that.  I really want to get back into the routine of it all, as that helps me so much to just know that it's part of my night.

My trial membership expires today, so I'll be signing up for my actual membership this evening. Guess I'm committing myself to this!  I definitely need it, as I've been the poster child for over-indulgence lately.  I have Omaha coming up, with lots of family pics, in less than 3 weeks, so there's not a ton I can do for that.  But I do know that just changing my workout behavior (READ:  working out on the regular) makes me more vigilant about my eating habits, and it just generally makes me feel better about myself.  Beyond that, summer is just around the corner!  I want to feel good.  :-)

I can't believe it's almost May already!  Now that I mentioned Omaha, I have to say I'm so excited for this visit.  I haven't been home since Christmas, and beyond that, I'm just really excited to have BF finally meet my family and a couple of my Omaha girlfriends.  It's a couple weeks out, but I'm really hoping we have nice weather since we want to go to the Zoo and definitely spend time outdoors if possible.  Two and a half weeks!


Monday, April 20, 2015

Hooked

So I survived my weekend on my own at the house!  Not only that, I kind of enjoyed it.  ;-)  

BF left Friday morning, so we kissed goodbye on my way out to work that morning.  Friday night I got my shellac manicure while my friend, A got her hair cut at the same salon, and then we went for dinner and drinks at a nearby restaurant.  I made the long commute back afterwards and enjoyed the rest of the night at home.  I got sucked into Season 1 of Orphan Black on Amazon Instant Video and I'm HOOKED.  I've only gotten through 3.5 episodes, but I'm loving it!  It's nice to know the actual show is on Season 3 now, so I've got some viewing to do.  

Saturday morning I got up and met a friend of mine for lunch.  We hadn't hung out in months and so we had a lot to catch up on.  He was very happy for me with regards to my move and I got an update on his dating situation as well.  The weather was GORGEOUS, to, which made the day even better. After lunch I met my friend, A at the mall out in my direction.  We did some shopping and I got a few cute things, and then we went back to the house.  Later on another girlfriend drove out and joined us, so I finally had a couple of my friends see my new place!  

We went out to dinner, got frozen yogurt afterwards and then just spent a couple of hours chatting and catching up at the house.  I had such a good time!  We laughed so much, and that kind of night is just good for the soul.  :-)  

Sunday I got up and went to the gym (FINALLY) and ran an errand before coming home to relax. BF got home around 2 pm, and he was not much worse for the wear aside from some sunburned spots and a crack in his phone screen. Sigh.  He had a good time, though, and I'm glad he got away for this guys weekend.  It was long overdue for their group, and even though it sounded tediously boring to me (SO.MUCH.FISHING), they seemed to enjoy it.  It's funny because they range in age from early thirties to mid-forties, and all have kids, and yet they still like to pretend they are cool, young, unencumbered things.  ;-)  I guess I am grateful that their idea of a guys trip is fishing, grilling and drinking at a lake house for a long weekend as opposed to a debaucherous trip to Vegas or something LOL.

Not much else going on around here.  Kind of looking forward to staff appreciation events this week, as it's something out of the norm.  We'll have J this weekend, so that should be fun since I won't have seen her for two weeks by then.  We'll have lots of Dancing with the Stars to watch (or re-watch, in my case!).  

Main thing on my radar in the next couple of weeks is Omaha.  I'm really looking forward to that trip! Always fun to see the extended family, as they're a much livelier bunch than my immediate, small family.  Plus, I love showing new people around Omaha.  I think they're usually pleasantly surprised!

Off to deal with this Monday of a Monday....


Thursday, April 16, 2015

Stromboli Thursday

So the wedding weekend was a good time!  It was great to get to see so many of my oldest and closest girlfriends all in one place.  M had a gorgeous day for her wedding weather-wise, and it was a lovely ceremony and reception.  I really think there is something to be said for a simple, to the point ceremony with just the right amount of personalization.  I know that if and when I remarry it will definitely be a simple and low key event this time around!

I had a few selfish moments over the course of the weekend that weddings often prompt.  If you're single, it makes you feel worse about being single and if, like me, you're in a relationship, but no wedding on the horizon, it can make you feel a little self-conscious about that fact.  I let myself feel it because it was there----is BF the person I will marry?  If so, how long down the road is that particular event for us?  Luckily I didn't dwell too much, as I think I was prepared for those thoughts to descend, and thusly didn't wallow too much.  I was the only one on my own in our group, but that didn't bother me since I've known everyone so long.

Sunday was fantastic, too, as I got to see my friend, T.  We always have fun doing the most random things and that day was no exception.  It was definitely an added bonus to my KC trip!  It stormed like crazy in the morning, but luckily the rain cleared out by the time we got together around 11 am.

This week back at work has been uneventful.  Today I have a departmental lunch meeting (sigh) which I believe is for the express purpose of telling us we are moving to another floor in the building. I knew it was coming, but it's been this big, weird secret and it's only now being confirmed.  As long as I still get an office, I guess I'll be fine with it, but until that detail is verified I'm a little nervous!

Tonight BF and I are going to hang out and eat strombolis.  Originally his guys' weekend was going to start late this afternoon, but they shifted plans and aren't leaving until early tomorrow morning now.  I had already decided that I was going to get a stromboli and cannoli from this place nearby for the evening's dinner on my own, so I told BF I was sticking with that plan and he could join in if he wanted.  ;-)  So we'll be getting carry-out dinner and spending the evening together before our brief couple days apart.

I'm really looking forward to the weekend!  Tomorrow I just have to trudge through the work day and then I'm getting a shellac manicure after work since I didn't manage to get one in KC.  My friend A has a hair appt. at the same place so we'll be hanging out there in the salon together.  After the salon time I'll likely go ahead and head home for a quiet night on my own.  This will likely be my best bet for some quality Netflix time on my own!  :-)

Saturday morning I'm meeting my friend Ahmad for an early lunch at 11.  We haven't hung out in months and have a ton to catch up on!  Post-lunch I'm going to meet up with A for some shopping.  I have a gift card, rewards cash and coupons for a few places so we'll hit up those spots and see what we find.  After that A will come home with me and our friend, J is also planning to come over.  I think we'll go out to dinner and then take the world's shortest tour of my new town, and then spend the evening just hanging out at the house.  I'm excited to have a couple friends see where I'm living now!

No plans on Sunday.  I'd like to go to the gym Friday night and on Sunday morning, so that's on the goal list.  Beyond that, BF will likely be home somewhere between 1-3pm, thus ending my reign as the sole inhabitor of the house.  ;-)  I imagine the rest of that day will be spent lounging like a sunday should be spent with the boyfriend.  Lovely!

Anyway, that's a fairly complete wrap-up of what I know right now.  Happy thursday!


Thursday, April 9, 2015

Friday Eve

After navigating a long and winding work week, it's finally Thursday!  I do love a good thursday, as it's Friday Eve.  :-)  Work has been fairly non-descript this week, which I suppose can be a good thing on occasion.  I am definitely ready for my long weekend, though.

I leave bright and early Saturday morning for Kansas City for the wedding.  Still hammering out a couple of details (car rental v. airport shuttle), but I'm mostly situated, aside from needing to pack tomorrow night.  I do at least have a packing list in the works.  Tomorrow night will likely be pretty busy once I get home from work.  I'll need to paint my nails (last second so they have less time to chip!) and get packed.  I'll also want to spend some quality time with BF and J before I'm gone for a couple of brief days.  :-)

I'm glad my dress is of the non-wrinkly variety, as I will likely be packing it in my bag (carry-on only) and changing upon arrival.  I have some super cute bright pink heels to pair with it since it's just black and white and I needed a pop of color.  Hoping to decide on some fun jewelry to finish out the look.  Undecided so far on my clothes for the rest of the weekend, though.  I want to bring something cute to wear out Saturday night, as we're supposed to go out for drinks and things with the bride and groom on the Country Club Plaza.  Sunday will be clothes for KC exploration with my awesome friend, T, so nothing fancy, just comfortable, and Monday is early morning flying so....not a lot of concern there.

I also got a super cute pair of shoes from Payless.  Good spot to shop for trendier looking shoes that I don't expect or need to live forever! I'm hoping to maybe get away with wearing them Saturday night, but depending on where we'll going I'll decide if it's worth the risk.  Cheap, Cute Shoes!

Last night after dinner I decided to go check out the gym I'm looking into.  I got a two week trial pass that started yesterday.  I wasn't SUPER excited to go back out into the gloomy weather after a long commute home, but I'm really glad I did!  I actually really like the gym.  It's much smaller than my previous gym, and even smaller than the other local gym I looked into, but it has a much better vibe for me than the other one.  The cardio machines are really nice with built in TVs and internet/bluetooth/etc. capabilities, and the weight machines count your reps for you and time out your breaks between sets.  They have a lot of other equipment I like, too, ie resistance bands, Bosu balls, exercise balls, steps, etc.

I did 30 minutes on the elliptical and then spent about 20 minutes doing a handful of weight machines.  I have to say that it felt really good to be back at the gym.  For me, there's such a huge difference in motivation between working out at home and working out in a gym environment.  I like being there with others doing the same thing, I like the options, and I really just liked this place.  All that on day one of my trial!  At this point I'm pretty certain I'll be joining the gym once the trial runs out.  Unfortunately it is not any cheaper than the other local gym, which is almost 3 times the monthly cost of my previous gym.  However, since I am not doing the trainer thing anymore, I'm still coming out saving money compared to my previous workout expenses.

I also forgot how invigorating a good workout could be.  After work I was tired and moody (yay, hormones!).  But after the gym I felt so much better---stronger, clear-headed and proud of myself for getting back to something that I really need and really enjoy...even if I dread it until I'm there.  I was also happy that I didn't feel intimidated about using the weight machines--maybe because it's a smaller gym?  Or maybe I just don't care anymore, and I know that I know what I'm doing.

I did have to take a moment to order an armband for my ipod touch while I was on the elliptical. Now that I'll be responsible for doing weights on my own, carrying around a loose ipod like I did with trainer isn't a great plan.  Luckily it was cheap and thanks to Amazon Prime it will be here tomorrow.  :-)

I guess that's all I know for now.  I get the joy of taking a field trip to the DC Office of Public Schools this afternoon over lunch to get fingerprinted for my firm's volunteering project we do with an area school.  I had to get a TB test for this as well, and I went over Tuesday to do this originally.  I took a cab in the interest of time and was the next in line to get printed when...the power went out! There ended up being quite widespread power outages in various parts of DC, and I was lucky enough to be part of that.  I waited for about half an hour, but gave up because I had to get back to work.  Took Metro back and now because of said power outage I have to go back today.  SIGH.

Tonight's plan:  Mahi-mahi fish tacos for dinner with BF.  Gym?  Laundry!

Monday, April 6, 2015

A Successful Gamble

I'm not often the gambling sort, but on occasion I'll take a risk financially.  One such occasion was with this whole lease breaking deal with my apartment.  I had three options for terminating the lease:

1) Break the lease effective immediately, pay $500 fee, and be responsible for up to 2 months of rent or until the apartment was re-leased.  

2) Break the lease with notice, pay no fee, and pay two months rent flat.

3) Find someone to take over my lease with the apartment "as-is", with my deposit sticking with the apartment.

I decided to go with the first option even though it had the potential to cost me an extra $500.  In the end, it was the right choice because my apartment was leased to someone new on Saturday!  That's right, I moved out last Saturday and turned in my keys that same day, and someone else moved in a week later.  Isn't that craziness?  This means I only have to pay for the remaining utilities since my last bill plus the 3 days of pro-rated April rent.  

This is such a relief!  I'm THISCLOSE to being fully done with that apartment, financially and all. The property manager is supposed to get me the final numbers by Friday and then I can get that paid and be done with it.  A small part of me was afraid I'd be paying on an empty apartment until the end of May, but luckily that isn't the case.  :-)

IN OTHER NEWS---

Easter was nice.  Since I have no kids and I'm not religious, I hadn't celebrated Easter in years until last year when BF's family was in town and I met them for the first time.  J left on Saturday evening since this was her half weekend, so it was just the two of us.  We had a nice dinner of turkey breast and all the accompanying sides, and we actually ate at the dining room table like civilized people.  ;-) The rest of the day was spent with a mix of relaxation and productivity.  I finally got the last of my things organized and put away, I did some laundry, we did some garage cleanup, house chores, etc. Luckily we also spent some quality time outside on the deck enjoying the gorgeous weather!

This week at work will hopefully not be too crazy.  My supervisor is out all week for her daughter's spring break, so things will be a little quieter on that front at least!  I'm having lunch with a friend from my old job today, which I entirely forgot about until I checked my calendar just now.  Friday I have a hair appointment for a blowout.  I'm getting it mostly for Saturday, when I will be getting up bright and early to fly to Kansas City for my friend, M's wedding.  

I'm really looking forward to the trip, even though it is not even a two day long visit.  I will land mid-morning, assuming everything is on time, and take a shuttle to the downtown hotel where I'll be spending the night.  I'll either get early check in or leave my bags with the concierge and then head off to the 1 pm wedding.  Formal wedding events should wrap by five, but then I believe there's a more informal plan to go out for drinks and the like later on in the evening.  

Sunday morning my friend, T is coming into town from Columbia, aka my old college town, which is a couple of hours away.  We will be spending the day hanging out in KC and hopefully I'll think of some fun places to visit that I haven't had the chance to go to in a long time!  I'm also really looking forward to a day hanging out with T because we always have such a good time together.

I am staying the second night at a hotel close to the airport because it's cheaper and more convenient for my early Monday flight.  T is nice enough to have agreed to drop me off there before heading out of town.  I'm trying desperately to avoid adding the cost of a rental car to this already expensive mini-trip.  I fly out of KC at 8:15 that morning and return home to DC shortly before noon.  Lovely BF has agreed to take me to Dulles on Saturday morning for my 8:34 am flight and pick me up on that Monday since it's his telework day.  Much better than driving and dealing with airport parking!

I got a new dress for the event, nothing pricy, but it's cute.  It's a black and white patterned dress, and I have some super cute bright pink heels to wear with it.  Will have to do my nails in a nice, bright pink to match! Hopefully my hair will hold up, too.  ;-) I'm excited to see my friend, M, get married, and I'm super excited to see my girlfriends who will be driving from Omaha to attend.  This will be the first time the four of us have been together in YEARS.  We can get parts of the group together at different times, but it's been a struggle to get everyone together.  I haven't seen my friend, C in AGES!  Crossing my fingers for on time flights, reliable hotel transportation, and good weather.  :-)

I haven't been to KC in years.  I think the last time was in the fall of 2007 when Ex-H and I had just imploded, and we had a trip to KC for a Chiefs game already booked.  We still went together (!!!) and it was weird and awkward and not awkward enough, and so many other things.  We stayed with his dad, went to Columbia for a football game, went to a Chiefs game with my parents, and acted like everything was normal-ish.  What a mess!  So glad this visit will be under better circumstances.

Here's hoping it's a quick, easy work week.  :-)