So Ice Cream Guy messages me this morning to tell me he has a story. This is his story.
This morning I was walking and I ran into a old lady. As I got closer, she turned away and clutched her possessions like she was scared.
I started to become sad. I do not want to be in a place where people are so afraid.
I smile at her and said, it is a beautiful morning and smiled.
She instantly relaxed. and called me a nice young man.
I was able to have a self reflection. We are all powerful individuals. A smile can be a powerful thing yet it is underutilized. Especially in my tool set.
While this may be common knowledge to some, it is not commonly used.. I found it fascinating.
This is my life, people. I either attract arrogant jackasses, or I attract delicate little flowers who are 100x too sensitive and introspective for me. Perhaps there is something dead inside of me? When I read this, I don't think how sweet, or how lovely. I roll my eyes, and I feel like he is entirely too self-aware of how awesome of a human being he fancies himself to be. I cringe a little. I yearn for a sarcastic message from one of the arrogant jackasses to cleanse my palate. And I debate over how to reply because I can't bring myself to get all hearts and flowers about this when I don't feel hearts and flowers over it. I don't want to be mean, but damn....seriously?
Aww I wouldn't totally discount him.
ReplyDeleteYes, it's a little "deep" but honestly he could just be a nice guy that just went a bit overboard trying to prove that he's a nice guy and unless he otherwise came across as arrogant I wouldn't presume from reading this that he was arrogant or thought he was overly awesome.
You have to admit that cheesy as it is, the sentiment of what he said is sweet.
It's just entirely too cheesy to me. I don't think he's arrogant, I just think he likes to think he is some deep, introspective soul and really he just comes off like he's read too many self help books. :/ If it had just been this one convo like this, it would be one thing, but this is a guy who sends 3-4 "kiss" emoticons per IM conversation, talks about his feelings constantly (2 dates in) and talks about himself a ton. "I'm the kind of guy who..This is the kind of thing I would do....What you have to know about me is.."
DeleteHe claimed he didn't ask me very many questions in return because he is so busy "observing" me and learning things about me that way. :/
Too much. Too bad.
All that combined, yeah a bit much.
DeleteYeah, I feel really badly about it. He's clearly a very nice guy, super sincere, very sweet. But I've been biting my tongue for a week, and even though I told him directly on Sunday that he was freaking me out by being so overly honest and sappy with me, it continues. :/
DeleteAlso, he has no car out here for the time being and is quite broke. I like driving, and I don't need someone with a ton of money, but you combine all of these factors....sigh.
Ugh, I'm with you on the eye-roll. Sorry. I'm not into cheesy/romantic delicate guys.... I prefer thoughtful but down-to-earth, and with a bit of a badass edge. (And if you know him, please send him my way!)
ReplyDeleteI'm sure Ice Cream Guy is nice and well-meaning, but if the sappiness makes you feel icky, it might be a dealbreaker.
Definitely a deal breaker. He's still talking to me, and now he's trying to be the arrogant, charming guy. FAIL. Pick a personality!
DeleteOne word: DESPERATE.
ReplyDeleteKiss faced IM's are for school kids and creeps. Unless you have been dating forever and he/she knows you loathe that sort of thing and does it just to bug you. I would totally do that to a sig other just to get under there skin. Once in a while reflection is alright, but this sounds like over the top sappiness. You should have written back something like "Oh that's nice, were you on your way to buy tampons when this happened?"
If he makes you cringe by date 2, then I can say, from the outside perspective, you are not into this guy. Send him a nice email saying you are not into him and move along. Don't drag out the inevitable, you know he is just going to get creepier.
Desperate is right. He's cycling through personalities so fast I can't keep up, and each one is worse than the last. So lame.
DeleteDefinitely sounds like it's time to kick him to the curb! It's obnoxious when one of these sensitive guys tries to impress you with a story like this. I'd react the same way - totally wouldn't know what to do because I can't give him the response back that he wants. Ugggggh. Let us know what you say back, please! I'm sure it will be genius =)
ReplyDeleteYes, he is definitely a prime example of trying too hard on all fronts. It shouldn't be that much work! I tried to be nice and untangle from him, and he told me, "Bluemoon, the pool of women for me is deep." I told him I hoped he swims better next time. ;)
DeleteI think his intentions were good, but the delivery sucked. YIKES. A simple, "I saw a scared old woman on the street today. Bums me out people live that way," would have sufficed. It's like he is trying way, WAY too hard.
ReplyDeleteFrom your comments on the sappiness and being broke and car-less, I'd say you were right to move on. It's not about money, but at this stage in life, if the guy doesn't have it together, will it get any better? Good move.
He's just turning out to overall be a weird one. Since his initial approach backfired, he's now claiming that wasn't him, and that really he's this carefree, sarcastic, easygoing guy. He's coming across arrogant (I was over this on Saturday, when I realized you couldn't give me what I needed. The pool of women for me is deep. Etc.). Equally unappealing, and I told him so. He keeps insisting he doesn't care, but then pops back up to talk more and flirt sadly at me.
DeleteAnd yeah, the life situation is just not ideal!