So the holidays are a booming time for internet dating, it seems. I think it frequently reminds single people of their singlehood, and with all the hearts and stars and whimsy in the air, it's easy to get caught up and feel like you are missing something if you're not part of a pair. I think I even had a couple of those moments around Christmas, and even a brief moment in the midst of my solo NYE.
However, I have to say that I have received an absolutely unbelievable number of messages and notifications on my online dating profile in the last few days. It is kind of over the top crazy. It's like all the single men hopped onto the site and started searching with all their might for their next mate.
I feel very popular, sure. But anytime there's a flood like this, there are sure to be some snakes in the water. I am growing weary of being told how breathtaking or beautiful I am. Does that sound wrong? I'm not ungrateful or anything, and I don't have some floor-skimming self-esteem levels. I just know that I'm generally more of a "cute" or an "adorable" type. I have my beautiful moments, and maybe here or there I've taken a breath away, but generally? That's not me. I find those over the top compliments to be a turn off.
Sometimes I think I know what I want, and other times I'm just not so sure, and that's okay. The quote from "Girls" sounds pretty good, but I don't want someone who wants to hang out all the time. Not really. Although maybe if I found the right person, I'd like that, and I'd want to hang out all the time, too.
Key difference? Unlike the bluemoon of the past, I wouldn't do it. I'd keep going to the gym. Doing my own thing. Doing happy hours when it's nicer, going to movies with friends. I would finally find the balance between together time and solo time, and I expect whatever relationship I do find myself in next will be a lot healthier for it. :-)
The parts about thinking I'm the best person in the world and wanting to have sex with only me are non-negotiable, though. ;-)
Happy New Year!