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Friday, March 8, 2013

SMH

Shaking my head here.  Today I got a message on PoF from a guy I went on a date with nearly 2 years ago.  He was a smoker who had claimed not to be, he made a homophobic comment during our meal, and he drove a Hummer.  Three strikes and you're out, sir.

I kindly reminded him that we'd previously been out, and he said, "What?  When? Are you sure?  LOL."  I told him the general time frame and location and he replies, "Oh yeah.  If I remember right you weren't into me." 

You remembered the most important part, Kevin!  Cheers for you.  :-)

Beyond that, I'm getting a steady stream of boring messages from blah people.  Lately I'm getting a lot of single dads from the Baltimore area.  WTF, mate?  I'm not 100% opposed to dating a man with kids, but I won't lie and claim it's my dream scenario.  Nor is someone who lives in Baltimore because hey, that's an hour away.  I love to drive, but I don't love to drive in Maryland.  I'm not as familiar with it.

Today is a head shaking day.  I had a date last night.  He was nice enough.  We got along pretty well.  But I felt ZERO attraction.  Once again, I was put on the spot about going out again.  I repeat:  WTF?  I hemmed and hawed and awkwardly said, "Probably!" even though I didn't really probably mean it. 

Oh, online dating.  You are a fickle friend at best. 

9 comments:

  1. Some guys just don't get it. I'm convinced a bunch of them just message people without actually reading their profiles.

    Like, Oh she's cute, click.

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    1. This guy was a real dick. He actually asked me out again, so I told him no, and why I did't like him the first time. He denied the homophobic comment ,said he only smokes when he drinks, and told me, "Here's some advice: lighten up. Life's too short to be so uptight." WTF?

      I replied with the equivalent of a fuck you, telling him I don't date smokers nor homophobes, and that he was condescending. I waited until he read it, and blocked him. Ass.

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    2. When will men understand that if you have to basically con a chick into dating you, it ain't gonna work.

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  2. <---- would never date a man with kids. Marrying a man with three daughters. ;) Be careful what you wish for LOL!

    And I was LMAO on the hummer, three strikes you're out. SO true. OH SO TRUE.

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    1. All these guys have these crazy custody things with their kids, though. Two weeks on, two weeks off. Every other weekend and wednesdays. This would be a lot of day to day drama!

      The Hummer guy was a douche. See my response to ThatAshGirl above, LOL.

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  3. 3 strikes you're out is a great rule. Here's my advice: Always go for a second date (unless the guy does or says something truly offensive or you're uncomfortable). Don't say no just because you're not attracted to him at first. I wasn't particularly attracted to my husband after the first date (as a matter of fact, there were a few "seriously?" moments) but I gave him a second chance. We corresponded quite a bit between dates, and by the 3rd date I was hooked. So, be sensible, but don't count a guy out just because there's no "chemistry."

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  4. I think the "blah" dates can be the hardest to navigate. I just went on a date like that too. I enjoyed talking to him, had fun, and it sounds silly but we love going to the exact same types of restaurants...a very rare quality I've found. But I guess a second date is worth seeing out if you're undecided! At the same time, I know we've both been led on by guys before, so the flip side is being careful about leading a "blah" guy on... I'm so with you on the no kids thing! Haha I hadn't thought of the Hummer dealbreaker, but this brings up a very good thing to think about. Sounds like a douchey car ;)

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  5. I gave a 'blah' guy three dates. HOWEVER, we had amazing chemistry, we could talk for hours, but I wasn't very attracted to him. He was alright, just not my type. Anyway, I got past that and we dated for a bit, and it was fantastic. Then he moved. I don't like to say 'he was the one that got away' but he kind of was. At least so far.

    You never know. If there is no attraction, or you don't look forward to talking to him, then pass.

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  6. I have been on a date with a guy who I forgot I went out with....there was a 4 year difference from the first and second date and he lost most of his hair in the process, so I got confused. He thanked me on the second date for giving him another chance as during those 4 years, he was married briefly....I felt awful.

    As for dates.....it is a tough call, but if you are meh about first ones, another chance is never a bad thing. The first time Crush and I went out, he thought I was a careerist and I thought he was an entitled asshole. Neither of us are these people. He also mistook me for someone else and asked me about my cat (I am allergic to cats...). I didn't hate him though and upon the second date, we had major fun, something changed........just wanted to share that, but you know what is right for you!

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