"It takes ONE guy. Just ONE. Finding him will take loads of perseverance, patience, and WHY'S and you are too good to settle. So, I wish you better than these horrific dates and I wish you love and I hope your best guy is right around the corner....so keep on kissing those frogs until then."
This was an excerpt from a comment by Readyandfading on one of my more recent posts. You all know I've had a rough couple of weeks, and part of that roughness has been a decided frustration with dating and men and the likelihood of me ever finding someone to really love again.
That sentiment, that it just takes one guy, and that I'm too good to settle for anything less...that's so important to be reminded of. The two things go together, and then they spiral out into a bigger picture, with a more significant message. I am more than any romantic relationship I may desire or become a part of. I am pretty spectacular on my own. I am more self-sufficient than I ever imagined, more capable, more driven. If someone had asked the married version of me at 23 if I could ever be happy in a life as a perpetual singleton, living alone and doing my own thing all the time, I would have crinkled my nose with disdain. So much solitary time! So many day to day adult life unknowns!
Yet here I am. And while I may have a frequent rider's pass for the dating merry go round, I also have a job I love, friends I adore, family I love, an apartment that suits me, cats who make me laugh, hobbies and things to do that fill my time, and a group of awesome blogger friends who support me and encourage me and commiserate with me, all while reading along on this crazy little journey.
That, my friends, is pretty impressive, and is part of the reason why I really am too good to settle, and why I won't, and why I need to continue to work on being patient, and taking care of all the other parts of my life, and letting this dating puzzle piece work itself out over time. Upside? BLOG MATERIAL!
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