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Tuesday, February 24, 2015

Signs from the Universe

In the last few days since really starting to come to terms with the idea of moving to BFland, I truly feel like the universe is doing me a solid and making an effort to show me that I'm making the right decision.

Case in point:

* Metro.  WMATA is a disaster lately.  It's like everything was rolling along with normal wear and tear until suddenly in the last few months, it's all going to hell in a handbasket.  Cracked rails from the weather are one thing, but multiple smoke incidents and reports of track fires, power outages, long delays in the tunnels are another.  This past weekend had THREE smoke incidents on Metro, two which resulted in evacuations.  WTF, mate?  That's only speaking to the dangerous parts of Metro and not factoring in the incredibly mismanaged, overpriced system that it is at its core, and the fact that rush hour service is a joke, the trains are dirty, constantly late or delayed or closing doors before people get a chance to onboard.  Escalators are broken left and right in multiple stations at a time.  I am NOT enchanted by this commuting system anymore!  The love affair is over, Metro!

** Fresh starts. My work bag broke last night.  I've had it for several years now and loved it, but last night it finally broke.  I got on Etsy and found a new one I love (I think!) and ordered it.  As I was doing so, I realized this may be the last package I have sent to my apartment as opposed to BFland. A new commuting bag for a new commute?  Just maybe!

*** My neighbors.  Yeah, the fighty ones.  I haven't heard any more arguments, but JEBUS, they are just rude and loud.  Their little dog barks ALL.THE.TIME., and he's cute, but COME ON.  Also, the last two nights they've had their TV on so loud that I can hear it like it's my own in my living room....when my own TV is on.  I could hear the dialogue of the show they were watching.  :-o Again I ask...WTF, mate?

**** Trainer. Worked out with trainer last night and we were discussing my move.  The gym/trainer are the biggest kink in my plans, the problem I have yet to solve.  I had a glimmer of hope last night when we discussed the possibility of him coming to train me in my office building gym over my lunch hour.  Now, it's just a maybe, and I need to send him pics of the gym, and have him come for a trial day to see, and figure out if there's a chance in hell of him finding parking around here.  But it's a better shot than I had before, and even if I have to knock it down from two times a week to one, at least I'll still be seeing him regularly, and that will be a huge relief to me!  It would be one giant thing I've been worrying about off my list.

This week has been really good overall on the moving front.  I look forward to having the ability to do laundry whenever I want without getting money on a card or worrying about neighbors abandoning their laundry in the machines.  I won't have to listen to anyone else's noises through the walls, as we never hear anything at BF's.  My cat will always have company, as he'll now permanently reside with BF's cat.  BF's house has an elliptical machine.  A spare bedroom so company can come and NOT sleep on a couch.  A kitchen with enough room for two people!  An awesome garden style bathtub.  His and hers sinks.  Two full and two half baths instead of just one! A small yard, a fantastic deck, a place to grill.  A small town feel, where people all sit out on their driveways with firepits and candy for Halloween, and Christmas parades and 4th of July Fireworks and cute little junk stores in the town square.

Biggest of all?  I will get to live with the person I love.  Face down my fears, conquer the ghosts from my history, and make new strides in a good, healthy relationship that I have a lot of faith in.  BF's daughter will get the small comfort of knowing that I'm sticking around for sure, and that her dad's house will be our house.  We'll get to cook together, go to bed together, do yardwork together, sit and watch the sunset on the deck together, go on walks together, decide how to make this our place, and what changes we want to implement.  This is a big step.  A good step.  An exciting step.  :-)

I'm so grateful to the universe for all of these signs, big and small.  It's good to get the push you need in the direction you ultimately want to go.  :-)

8 comments:

  1. Going through so many of the same things with my BF...hes thinking of moving in with me since I own my housein June to save money for a house, OUR house. That means he will be commuting from Bmore to DC everyday. We have talked about his commute, when we will go the gym, etc...I will really have to sit down with him to make sure we talk through everything. I don't want him to have a question unanswered. Like you said...the main thing is being with the person you love!

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    1. You know, it's weirdly comforting to "know" someone else who may be going through something so similar soon, especially since it's from the opposite side of things. Pretty interesting!

      I definitely agree that talking through everything really specifically and openly, acknowledging the good and the bad to come, is huge. Good luck to you in the coming months!

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  2. I think this is just the natural way of things. The apartment "lifestyle" is great for a time, but eventually you transition and want a quieter, simple kind of life. Queue Gwen Stefani.

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    1. I guess this is true! I got used to it again after owning a house for so many years, and now I guess I'm finally maybe transitioning back the other way again.

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  3. Wow - it really does seem that the universe is sending you 'signs'! It also sounds like BF's place is much better for you and you wouldn't have to deal with noisy and rude neighbours. I also think it would be amazing just being able to wake up everyday, next to someone you love - I think that's what I miss the most when waking up in the mornings!

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    1. Yeah, my tolerance for the noise and habits of others is definitely on the downswing. I really am looking forward to the general feeling of HOME that a house with BF will offer, too. I feel that every weekend, and now I will get to feel it all the time!

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  4. I absolutely believe in signs too! I love that the Universe has your back here. And I think deep down you always knew it was the right move too :). So happy for you!

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