Monday, October 19, 2015


I've been really enjoying October thus far.  It truly is my favorite month!  We went to a pumpkin patch a couple of weekends ago and to a haunted house on Friday night.  :-)  Next weekend we'll be watching scary movies and carving pumpkins.  Must hit all the best fall activities before we slide into November.

We only had J for half the weekend this weekend, so on Saturday night we went out to Buffalo Wild Wings to watch some of the Mizzou game.  They lost, but it was still a fun evening.  When we got home J had texted BF and said something along the lines of, "So my mom/friends/family are asking when you're going to marry Bluemoon".  HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA.

I had to laugh.  BF actually asked me if I'd put her up to it based on my response of, "Hey, you know...that's a good question!  What are you going to tell her?"  I assured him I had not, but that if I was to glean some information from her inquiry what was the harm in that?  He responded, "Eventually.  One day!" and I rolled my eyes until they almost bottomed out entirely.  He later told me that his answer to her was "Could be soon".

I'm not putting a ton of weight into that answer.  BF is the world's slowest moving creature in terms of commitment.  It's a bit goofy because I know we both see each other in our long-term future and I know he's 100% committed to me.  He's just a very marriage-skeptical guy, which I get to some degree, but also to another I'm like...GET OVER IT.  You get out of it what you put in it.  I SHOULD KNOW.  :-)

Anyway, I thought it was cute that she asked and I'm secretly glad that he is periodically reminded that the world thinks we are ready for this next step.  It will be two years in January, which is a pretty solid chunk of time when you're grown adults, esp. once you've lived to together for almost 8 months already and it will be ten months by the time of the aforementioned anniversary.

I know part of this is related to the wedding bug going on around me, which I've mentioned before. My ex-H is engaged and getting married in Mexico in April, another friend is proposing to his girlfriend soon, an old bloggy friend is engaged and wedding planning.  There's definitely something in the air!  But beyond all of that, I just really feel like we've proven to ourselves that we are in this for the long haul, and cohabitation has gone strikingly well, and I feel like his kid is my (step)kid through and through.  She drives me crazy at times, but I love her, anyway and I love that she sees us as another family in her life.

I guess only time will tell, and patience is a virtue and blah blah blah.  ;-)  I have faith in BF that he will set aside his concerns and take a chance on marriage with me sooner than later, although the sooner may be slower to come than I'd maybe like.  Compromise, compromise.  Just last year we spent our anniversary evening discussing the idea of living together, and now we are living together like rock stars!  Things will unfold as they should.

Honestly, life is busy enough that I shouldn't have a ton of time to worry about that too much.  Work has been CRAZY and it's definitely keeping me super busy.  We start our elementary school tutoring partnership tomorrow, which is always fun!  The kids are super cute and it's nice to do something like that for people who need it.  We go twice a month for the duration of the school year for a couple hours at a time, so it's a good time and something beneficial for all involved.

Beyond that, I'm reading a lot, trying to find time to watch a bunch of different things on Netflix and Hulu and trying to remember where my headband and gloves are now that it's cooler out in the mornings.  I think I'm going to have to upgrade to a heavier winter coat because my walking commute is several blocks longer this winter and it gets COLD!  This morning was 33.  :-o  Brr.

I love fall, but I don't love that it leads to winter!


  1. October is my favorite month too! Well...I guess December is too because I LOVE the holidays!

    If you two are comfortable in your relationship and where it's heading that's all that matters, although I'm sure it is a big frustrating to "wait" for BF. So cute that J is curious!!!

    Do you mind me asking the status of J's mom? Is she remarried? or daring?

    1. I love the holidays, but they always feel like they approach so quickly. :-)

      I'm admittedly more anxious than he is to move forward. I guess I just feel like I have a pretty good sense of where I am and trust myself more than he does maybe. He's never been engaged or married, so his trepidation makes some sense, I suppose!

      J's mom is dating and has been with the same person for a little bit. I guess they've talked about moving in together, but haven't done so yet!

  2. I read your post right after my post about living together/commitment, how random! I frequently get asked when we're getting engaged & moving in together. I have a few friends who are moving in that direction with their significant others, so it's a common conversation topic.

    It's good that you're understanding of BF being slow to commit, even though he's clearly not a commitment-phobe. While sometimes guys do need a little nudge, ultimately they have to come to the decision on their own and at their own time. Nice guys don't react well to nagging and ultimatums, in my experience.

    1. It's so interesting to read about this life experience from another perspective! I kind of love how everyone has their own expectations and standards, and it's a good reminder for me with regards to BF since we're sort of in opposite positions to a degree. :-) I decided on my own a few months back to table the whole subject as a general rule until we hit the two year mark at least. After that I will consider another touching base discussion, but no guarantees.

      I definitely want things to happen as they should, but I do know that at some point down the line if my relationship isn't moving forward it would be a problem, but we're not near that point yet! :-)

      Good for you taking your time and knowing what you want to do...that's awesome!