Let me share with you all the horror and annoyance of the last week or so in the world of Bluemoon. Be warned, this post speaks of lady health to some degree.
Got symptoms of my first UTI last week. Went to my Dr., got prescribed Cipro. Took Cipro for 3 days as instructed, didn't get better. Got worse once RX was gone. Went back into Dr. Monday morning. Saw useless stand in for my own Dr. b/c mine was booked. Left having been told "I don't know" basically, as the urine culture ended up coming up as negative for UTI. Gave me a referral for a urogynecologist. Called. Couldn't get in, as they were booking for MARCH.
Asked last urogyn. office what I was supposed to do since by this point I COULD NOT PEE. They recommended the ER. Went to ER. Bloodwork to check on organ function, urine culture again, and CT scan to check for kidney stones and other undesirables. Other things happened I don't want to specifically identify, but you can guess based on the fact that I couldn't pee and they needed a sample. Got fluids via IV, all bloodwork checked out, CT scan checked out. Came up as positive for UTI in their tests and ER doc said theirs are more reliable, anyway. Bottom line conclusion was that I had a special UTI that was resistant to the Cipro, so they gave me another antibiotic, Macrobid.
Started on that Monday afternoon. As the week progressed, noticed I was feeling some weird tingly sensations and odd numbness in my feet and lower body. Attributed it to my body just being tired and depleted. Got worse yesterday, and finally today looked at the RX warnings for this antibiotic. No bueno. Called pharmacy and Dr., have to stop this antibiotic because of my reaction to it, which apparently happens a fair amount and requires cessation of the drug.
Currently waiting on Drs. office to call back with decision about if I'm going to get pulled from antibiotics in general or get a short course of a third antibiotic to round out what would have been the full course of the second one.
The bitch of it all? FINALLY started seeing real improvement with the UTI today. On the verge of being pissed if they tell me no on third antibiotic b/c I don't want to lose the progress I've made. I dream of peeing with wild abandon like all the other girls do. No, I do not WANT to be on antibiotics, but if I need to do 4-5 more days to kick this out for good, I will. I'm taking my acidophilus, my vitamins, drinking a ton of water, blah blah blah. And I've been told to go ahead and fill the precautionary Diflucan RX and take it at the end of the antibiotics course just b/c I will have been on them so long and I don't want to wait for a problem to happen.
Seriously, though. Is it so much to want to pee while NOT having intermittent numbness and tingling in your legs while you're doing it?
This is just all compounded by the fact that I had the flu in December and STILL have a residual periodic cough from it. My body needs to get its shit together! :-)
Cheers!
Friday, January 30, 2015
Wednesday, January 28, 2015
Dialing it back a notch
So I was a low maintenance kind of a girl growing up. I've been obsessed with lip products for as long as I can remember, but until at least college, that was all I wore in terms of makeup. I also got through pretty much the entirety of high school carrying only a little woven change purse instead of an actual purse. It held my money, my lip gloss and that was about it.
During college I started occasionally wearing a little makeup, but that mostly entailed concealer/powder and eyeliner to add to my lipstick/gloss. As the years wore on, blush got added in as well as eyeshadow, and in just the last year or so I've started to wear mascara on a consistent basis. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm still pretty low maintenance in terms of how long it takes me to get ready, esp. when it comes to makeup. My makeup routine takes five minutes tops.
Recently on weekends, I've been trying to dial it back with makeup. If I have something to do, I'll keep it on the normal usage, but for a Sunday lazing around with BF and his daughter? I'm working to pare it down. Right now I just make an attempt to ditch the mascara at the very least, and sometimes the eyeshadow. Liner and lip products, as well as probably concealer, will likely not be taken out of rotation unless I'm too sick to bother! I feel like the eyeliner makes my eyes look awake and the lip product makes me look healthy. I am working to shift away from lipstick on those days to tinted balms, and when I'm feeling REALLY crazy, just a clear balm. My favorite is the EOS vanilla mint balm. So good!
I also got into blowing my hair straight with some regularity (ie 1-2 times a week) this past fall. Problem is that it requires getting up earlier (boo) and is just overall more work than I'm really interested in for my hair. So I've tried to dial that back as well, not only for ease, but for the health of my hair. I blow dried my hair straight last Friday morning and that was the first time I'd done it in probably at least a month, if not longer. I'm trying to re-embrace my curls, and I think I've done a good job. I cheat occasionally and touch up some face-framing pieces with the curling iron, but mostly it just is what it is. Do I get compliments on it like I do when it's blown out? Not nearly as much. But oh well. I still manage to make it through my work day without the praise and adoration of my coworkers. ;-) Instead I get compliments on earrings, or my nail polish color. That works!
My last effort at dialing it back has been the most recent, and that's with regards to my shoe choices. I love cute shoes. I've never been someone who pines for or indulges in insanely uncomfortable shoes for a good look, but I have plenty of pairs that are fairly uncomfortable, but I love, anyway. Again proving my status as a late bloomer, I never really wore heels until I was beyond age 30. Angry Ex got me into them and for awhile I really relished them. Heels made me feel sexy and powerful, even when they made my feet hurt! I liked how they made my legs look, too. But for me, they are NOT comfortable. I know some women wear them enough that they are as comfortable as a regular shoe, though I can't fathom that. But for me, not the case.
I started trying to be smart by wearing one pair of shoes for my commute and changing into another at work. I walk a block to the bus stop every morning, then 4-5 blocks from Metro to my office, plus any walking I do over lunch, and then the same 4-5 blocks to Metro and block from bus stop to my apartment after work. It's a good amount of walking! I've almost never tried that commute in real heels, though I've done it in wedges and chunky heeled sandals, as well as cute flat sandals and cute flats. THEY ALL HURT.
Lately I'd been wearing one pair of black booties a lot, and I realized recently that they were turning out to be murder on my feet. They were that middling kind of shoe where they weren't horrifically uncomfortable to commute in, so I'd get lazy and just wear them for everything. Ouch. I paid for that laziness with horribly sore feet lately. It legit hurt to walk on them at all!
So this past weekend I went to DSW and found a (GASP!!) sensible pair of black shoes that can be worn for both commuting and the office. No, they are not going to elicit compliments. Ever. But they are not horrific, and they are comfortable. For the time being I'm aiming for comfort all the time, wearing good shoes at work and out of it. Running/athletic shoes on the weekend when I don't have much going on. I can already feel improvement after less than a week of this effort. Eventually I will surely transition some cute shoes back in, though they may be fleshed out with some nice gel inserts to soften their impact. But right now....I'm dialing it back with the shoes, too.
Maybe this all just means I'm getting old, I don't know. The shoe thing definitely does and I'm okay with that. I worked out with my trainer last night and I left feeling strong and capable (and totally exhausted) and that matters more to me than getting a compliment on some cute shoes that are making my soul cry.
I guess I just am at a point in my life where I want to look in the mirror and feel beautiful with or without a full makeup effort, with or without a salon blowout, with or without an awesome pair of heels. I want to recognize that I have pretty eyes, or a nice smile, and that sometimes my curly hair is really lovely.
I've taken a couple of selfies in the last month or so where I've had little to no makeup on, and I was pleasantly surprised. I still looked pretty! I may not catch the eyes of strangers in a crowd, but I was happy enough, anyway. I'm a selfie person, btw. Sure, it can seem self-indulgent or silly or juvenile. But I choose to view it the same way some others have described it....selfies allow me to capture myself in the way I feel beautiful. They show anyone who sees them the version of me that I feel is most beautiful. They are personal and can be like little diaries of a certain moment. It's rare that someone else can take a picture of me that I like better than a picture I could take of myself. And lately, I've managed to find those beautiful moments in myself when there's no lipstick to be found, no perfectly coiffed hair, no mascara-rimmed eyelashes.
Anyway, I know this is a random post, but it's just something I've been thinking about. I like that I'm getting more comfortable with going low key appearance wise these days, and that I can still bring it to the table when I want to look really nice. I like that as a general rule, no one is going to be shocked if they see me without makeup and tell me that I look like a totally different person. When I wear makeup I'm just trying to accentuate the me that's already there, not camouflage myself into another person.
When I was growing up I never felt pretty. I hated my freckles, my unruly curls, my ears, my paleness. I felt like at best I had moments of cuteness. My hair was awkward through high school and even into college. I never really felt put together, even on my wedding day. I swear, I never started to really feel beautiful until I separated from my husband. I know that sounds really weird, but it's true. I think I always felt like a shadow, an afterthought. I'd never tested myself in any real way, or forged my own path.
Separation and divorce forced me to grow, and forced me back into the world. I had to re-discover who I was evolving into, and somewhere in that discovery I started to feel pretty. Confident. And when I started dating M, my first relationship after my separation, I felt sexy for the first time in my life. It was empowering. And when I dated Angry Ex, even though he made me horribly insecure in many ways, I will credit him for getting me to try new things, like heels, and dresses and other fashion choices I wouldn't have tried without him. Those things further empowered me, and once I broke away from him and grabbed my self-esteem back, I had those in my pocket as well.
After those relationships ended and I went into my 3+ year stint of singlehood, I really came into my own in terms of confidence. I vamped it up on occasion, wearing heels and skirts and the like. I've now mellowed back out from those high points of self-discovery, and am finding the happy in between. :-)
I'm learning that I can look quite lovely in certain makeup free, crazy haired moments. But I'll also never forget that I can do a full tilt makeup effort (still mild compared to the masses, ha), get a rock star blowout and put on a pair of skinny jeans, heels and a cute fitted top and feel like I'm the hottest thing around. To me, that is winning. :-)
During college I started occasionally wearing a little makeup, but that mostly entailed concealer/powder and eyeliner to add to my lipstick/gloss. As the years wore on, blush got added in as well as eyeshadow, and in just the last year or so I've started to wear mascara on a consistent basis. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm still pretty low maintenance in terms of how long it takes me to get ready, esp. when it comes to makeup. My makeup routine takes five minutes tops.
Recently on weekends, I've been trying to dial it back with makeup. If I have something to do, I'll keep it on the normal usage, but for a Sunday lazing around with BF and his daughter? I'm working to pare it down. Right now I just make an attempt to ditch the mascara at the very least, and sometimes the eyeshadow. Liner and lip products, as well as probably concealer, will likely not be taken out of rotation unless I'm too sick to bother! I feel like the eyeliner makes my eyes look awake and the lip product makes me look healthy. I am working to shift away from lipstick on those days to tinted balms, and when I'm feeling REALLY crazy, just a clear balm. My favorite is the EOS vanilla mint balm. So good!
I also got into blowing my hair straight with some regularity (ie 1-2 times a week) this past fall. Problem is that it requires getting up earlier (boo) and is just overall more work than I'm really interested in for my hair. So I've tried to dial that back as well, not only for ease, but for the health of my hair. I blow dried my hair straight last Friday morning and that was the first time I'd done it in probably at least a month, if not longer. I'm trying to re-embrace my curls, and I think I've done a good job. I cheat occasionally and touch up some face-framing pieces with the curling iron, but mostly it just is what it is. Do I get compliments on it like I do when it's blown out? Not nearly as much. But oh well. I still manage to make it through my work day without the praise and adoration of my coworkers. ;-) Instead I get compliments on earrings, or my nail polish color. That works!
My last effort at dialing it back has been the most recent, and that's with regards to my shoe choices. I love cute shoes. I've never been someone who pines for or indulges in insanely uncomfortable shoes for a good look, but I have plenty of pairs that are fairly uncomfortable, but I love, anyway. Again proving my status as a late bloomer, I never really wore heels until I was beyond age 30. Angry Ex got me into them and for awhile I really relished them. Heels made me feel sexy and powerful, even when they made my feet hurt! I liked how they made my legs look, too. But for me, they are NOT comfortable. I know some women wear them enough that they are as comfortable as a regular shoe, though I can't fathom that. But for me, not the case.
I started trying to be smart by wearing one pair of shoes for my commute and changing into another at work. I walk a block to the bus stop every morning, then 4-5 blocks from Metro to my office, plus any walking I do over lunch, and then the same 4-5 blocks to Metro and block from bus stop to my apartment after work. It's a good amount of walking! I've almost never tried that commute in real heels, though I've done it in wedges and chunky heeled sandals, as well as cute flat sandals and cute flats. THEY ALL HURT.
Lately I'd been wearing one pair of black booties a lot, and I realized recently that they were turning out to be murder on my feet. They were that middling kind of shoe where they weren't horrifically uncomfortable to commute in, so I'd get lazy and just wear them for everything. Ouch. I paid for that laziness with horribly sore feet lately. It legit hurt to walk on them at all!
So this past weekend I went to DSW and found a (GASP!!) sensible pair of black shoes that can be worn for both commuting and the office. No, they are not going to elicit compliments. Ever. But they are not horrific, and they are comfortable. For the time being I'm aiming for comfort all the time, wearing good shoes at work and out of it. Running/athletic shoes on the weekend when I don't have much going on. I can already feel improvement after less than a week of this effort. Eventually I will surely transition some cute shoes back in, though they may be fleshed out with some nice gel inserts to soften their impact. But right now....I'm dialing it back with the shoes, too.
Maybe this all just means I'm getting old, I don't know. The shoe thing definitely does and I'm okay with that. I worked out with my trainer last night and I left feeling strong and capable (and totally exhausted) and that matters more to me than getting a compliment on some cute shoes that are making my soul cry.
I guess I just am at a point in my life where I want to look in the mirror and feel beautiful with or without a full makeup effort, with or without a salon blowout, with or without an awesome pair of heels. I want to recognize that I have pretty eyes, or a nice smile, and that sometimes my curly hair is really lovely.
I've taken a couple of selfies in the last month or so where I've had little to no makeup on, and I was pleasantly surprised. I still looked pretty! I may not catch the eyes of strangers in a crowd, but I was happy enough, anyway. I'm a selfie person, btw. Sure, it can seem self-indulgent or silly or juvenile. But I choose to view it the same way some others have described it....selfies allow me to capture myself in the way I feel beautiful. They show anyone who sees them the version of me that I feel is most beautiful. They are personal and can be like little diaries of a certain moment. It's rare that someone else can take a picture of me that I like better than a picture I could take of myself. And lately, I've managed to find those beautiful moments in myself when there's no lipstick to be found, no perfectly coiffed hair, no mascara-rimmed eyelashes.
Anyway, I know this is a random post, but it's just something I've been thinking about. I like that I'm getting more comfortable with going low key appearance wise these days, and that I can still bring it to the table when I want to look really nice. I like that as a general rule, no one is going to be shocked if they see me without makeup and tell me that I look like a totally different person. When I wear makeup I'm just trying to accentuate the me that's already there, not camouflage myself into another person.
When I was growing up I never felt pretty. I hated my freckles, my unruly curls, my ears, my paleness. I felt like at best I had moments of cuteness. My hair was awkward through high school and even into college. I never really felt put together, even on my wedding day. I swear, I never started to really feel beautiful until I separated from my husband. I know that sounds really weird, but it's true. I think I always felt like a shadow, an afterthought. I'd never tested myself in any real way, or forged my own path.
Separation and divorce forced me to grow, and forced me back into the world. I had to re-discover who I was evolving into, and somewhere in that discovery I started to feel pretty. Confident. And when I started dating M, my first relationship after my separation, I felt sexy for the first time in my life. It was empowering. And when I dated Angry Ex, even though he made me horribly insecure in many ways, I will credit him for getting me to try new things, like heels, and dresses and other fashion choices I wouldn't have tried without him. Those things further empowered me, and once I broke away from him and grabbed my self-esteem back, I had those in my pocket as well.
After those relationships ended and I went into my 3+ year stint of singlehood, I really came into my own in terms of confidence. I vamped it up on occasion, wearing heels and skirts and the like. I've now mellowed back out from those high points of self-discovery, and am finding the happy in between. :-)
I'm learning that I can look quite lovely in certain makeup free, crazy haired moments. But I'll also never forget that I can do a full tilt makeup effort (still mild compared to the masses, ha), get a rock star blowout and put on a pair of skinny jeans, heels and a cute fitted top and feel like I'm the hottest thing around. To me, that is winning. :-)
Wednesday, January 21, 2015
co(habit)
So the idea of cohabitation has been thrown into our universe as a couple. As you surely know if you've read along, the logistics aren't ideal since I live right outside DC and he lives an hour away from it. I work in DC, so my commute is a big factor in anyplace I decide to live.
We seriously started talking about it around our anniversary. We want to live together, but the trouble is the reality of it all. So after a lot of discussion, we decided upon the following plan of action:
Over the course of the next month or two, I will stay out at BF's place randomly on work nights to check out the various commuting options. Subsequently, I will spend an upcoming month living exclusively with BF at his house. The commute will suck. No denial there. But we are both cautious, and we both have things to lose, so we want to be sure. We want to see how living together for a full month goes. We expect it will be fine, but we both agree we'll feel better if we have a trial under our belts.
BF has a house that he owns to deal with. I have less in terms of material things to lose, but I love my apartment and I do NOT want to give it up like I did with my condo before when I moved in with Angry Ex, and it was a huge failure.
I do realize that obviously a month isn't a full picture. Honestly, though-we could do this for six months or even a year and not encounter every unknown. We just want a real block of time, with work days and commuting and household chores and downtime that's not spent together to see how we fare. If it goes well, as we expect, then it's onward and upward.
At that point we'll start really looking into finding a rental place to live in. We don't want to automatically buy right away because we're not 100% positive where we want to be, and again, I want more stability before I take that step, as does he. The goal would be to hopefully have his house situation resolved (sold or rented) by the fall or thereabouts, with us living together somewhere in the middle of our two areas at that time.
Yes, it's inconvenient, and more to me than him (the trial period). But realistically, it's our only option. I have a one bedroom, one bath apartment. He has his daughter most weekends, plus a houseful of furniture and we have two cats between us. My place isn't a real option for this step. So I'll suck it up and deal with the crappy commute for a month, with the bigger picture in mind.
Luckily BF has been fantastic about it, knowing it's going to be harder for me. He's offered various things, including changing his work hours so our commutes match up better, taking me and picking me up from park & ride, etc. He is open to anything and I 100% believe that he'll do his best to make the time period as easy as he can.
Moreover, I'm excited about this. :-) I know it isn't ideal and it's not how I would have chosen to do this, and it's going to take a lot of time to get where we want to be...but it's a step. And it's a step that's in our universe now, and it's something we talk about routinely, and the idea of seeing him first thing every morning and last thing every night...love it.
So that's the update on that! I'm sure I'll talk about it a lot more in coming months, but I wanted to lay out the initial information first. :-)
Tuesday, January 6, 2015
Update: You Be the Judge
I wanted to post an update regarding my recent post about BF's ex who keeps popping up.
We talked more about it this weekend and I got more information. This included the following:
At some point in recent months, I'm not sure exactly when, BF removed Ex from his close/friends and family group on FB and put her in the periphery group, meaning that she can basically see nothing on his wall and hasn't been able to for months. She has tagged him in things a couple of times in recent months and he's not acknowledged it by liking it or replying.
Ex sent daughter a Halloween card with a giftcard in it in the fall. Daughter was not interested. They didn't acknowledge the gift in any fashion, so a few weeks later Ex texted BF to ask if they got it in light of the gift card. He never replied.
When BF picked daughter up on Friday, he told her about the gift and the details of it (being dropped off with no notice, no knock when we were home). She also thought it was weird. She legit left on Saturday evening and never even touched it. The gift bag remained by the front door, the card unopened, the gifts untouched. Ha!
I asked BF if he was going to make her send a Thank you note or anything and he said no, they were just going to ignore it.
So...it's not a direct way of dealing with it. He hasn't formally booted her on FB or told her to stop or talked to her about boundaries. He's just gradually unraveled her from his life a little more each time she does something weird or creepy or out of line. She pops up less often, but hasn't given up the ghost entirely. I imagine there will be another text at some point asking if daughter got the gift (cake baking materials, something she's not been into for a long time), but I imagine that will also go unanswered. Eventually, she'll figure it out, or she'll keep being ignored.
I don't feel bad for her because she is legitimately creepy. He said she lives almost an hour away. WTF??? It's weird and desperate and sad, and hopefully she takes the hint. I think that for a long time she was so glad to be BF's stand in gf even though they were broken up, and I'm betting that she carried a torch at least a little bit the whole time. He is the one who ended it because he didn't see a future with her. Anyway, she did this to herself, and she crossed lines and boundaries and gradually forced his hand...she forced him to see her as the nutter she was acting like.
I am perfectly fine with this method of dealing with the situation for the record. Some people behave in such a way that they don't merit the effort of trying to explain why they're out of line, and I think this is one of those cases. I don't think that even if he called her up and had this discussion with her that it would even register. Sometimes silence speaks louder and more clearly than any words do. He tried with her for the first few months, but she simply couldn't and wouldn't respect that he was in a relationship, and luckily for me BF wouldn't tolerate that.
Thank you so much for all the thoughts and insight. I know some would like it handled differently, but this is how he's handling it at this point, and hopefully it will work. If she keeps pushing, maybe time for a real conversation will be appropriate, but right now this is the plan of action. Every time she pops up, the little evil part of me thinks of this ecard I saw one time:
We talked more about it this weekend and I got more information. This included the following:
At some point in recent months, I'm not sure exactly when, BF removed Ex from his close/friends and family group on FB and put her in the periphery group, meaning that she can basically see nothing on his wall and hasn't been able to for months. She has tagged him in things a couple of times in recent months and he's not acknowledged it by liking it or replying.
Ex sent daughter a Halloween card with a giftcard in it in the fall. Daughter was not interested. They didn't acknowledge the gift in any fashion, so a few weeks later Ex texted BF to ask if they got it in light of the gift card. He never replied.
When BF picked daughter up on Friday, he told her about the gift and the details of it (being dropped off with no notice, no knock when we were home). She also thought it was weird. She legit left on Saturday evening and never even touched it. The gift bag remained by the front door, the card unopened, the gifts untouched. Ha!
I asked BF if he was going to make her send a Thank you note or anything and he said no, they were just going to ignore it.
So...it's not a direct way of dealing with it. He hasn't formally booted her on FB or told her to stop or talked to her about boundaries. He's just gradually unraveled her from his life a little more each time she does something weird or creepy or out of line. She pops up less often, but hasn't given up the ghost entirely. I imagine there will be another text at some point asking if daughter got the gift (cake baking materials, something she's not been into for a long time), but I imagine that will also go unanswered. Eventually, she'll figure it out, or she'll keep being ignored.
I don't feel bad for her because she is legitimately creepy. He said she lives almost an hour away. WTF??? It's weird and desperate and sad, and hopefully she takes the hint. I think that for a long time she was so glad to be BF's stand in gf even though they were broken up, and I'm betting that she carried a torch at least a little bit the whole time. He is the one who ended it because he didn't see a future with her. Anyway, she did this to herself, and she crossed lines and boundaries and gradually forced his hand...she forced him to see her as the nutter she was acting like.
I am perfectly fine with this method of dealing with the situation for the record. Some people behave in such a way that they don't merit the effort of trying to explain why they're out of line, and I think this is one of those cases. I don't think that even if he called her up and had this discussion with her that it would even register. Sometimes silence speaks louder and more clearly than any words do. He tried with her for the first few months, but she simply couldn't and wouldn't respect that he was in a relationship, and luckily for me BF wouldn't tolerate that.
Thank you so much for all the thoughts and insight. I know some would like it handled differently, but this is how he's handling it at this point, and hopefully it will work. If she keeps pushing, maybe time for a real conversation will be appropriate, but right now this is the plan of action. Every time she pops up, the little evil part of me thinks of this ecard I saw one time:
I know, I'm terrible, but COME ON. ;-) Take a hint already! I can't get over the fact that they dated nearly 8 years ago and she's still holding on this hard. The important thing,though, is that BF recognized this was not cool and took (passive) actions accordingly. So refreshing to be with someone who can put aside the fact that this is an ego booster and realize that respecting his current relationship is more important than having some ex still worship you and go to creepy levels to show her adoration. ;-)
Friday, January 2, 2015
You be the judge
I have a situation I want to lay out for you all, and I want your thoughts.
As background:
I may have discussed it before, but BF dated a girl about 7 years ago for a little over a year. His daughter was young at the time and so she grew fairly close to the GF when they dated, especially since she was around their house so much. BF broke up with her because he couldn't see a future with her in a romantic sense. They remained very close friends in the following years. Much like Ex-H and I did during my solidly single years, they became each other's BF/GF stand-ins. They went to weddings together, they did holidays together on occasion, they spent birthdays together. They did a lot of things with his daughter, too. This continued all the way up to right before we started dating. They had done a gingerbread decorating expo as a threesome for Christmas and he'd gone to an event at Verizon Center with her in the first couple weeks we were dating.
When we started dating more seriously, we had a discussion wherein we both outlined that we were good friends with exes, and that as long as we were open about it and we were now re-allocating certain activities to one another as opposed to the ex (ie, birthdays spent with each other instead of with the exes), we wouldn't have any issues.
At some point within our first couple months of dating, his (long ago) Ex sent me a FB friend request out of the blue. I've never met her. It was weird. I told him about it, and he was pretty weirded out. She withdrew the request within a couple of hours, but it was already in the universe.
Later in the spring BF's cat got really sick. He contacted her for help since she had experience with what his cat was going through. She offered to help and ended up heavily involved for the next few days. She stayed over one night (his daughter was there as well) and they all stayed up all night trying to get the cat to eat, drink, giving her meds, etc. I wasn't thrilled, and it caused some tension, but I understood why he involved her ultimately. My main issue came on the day that he had to let the cat go. The three of them went to the vet and afterwards got some dinner. She offered to stay the night again, and he declined. I thought that was inappropriate of her to even suggest, but again....he told her no, so it was fine.
The next day she posted a HUGE Facebook status update about everything that had happened with the cat. She wrote about how much she loved BF and his daughter, how strong they were, how she had done everything she could to help. She posted pictures of herself hugging his daughter while she held the cat for the last time. The post resulted in all of her friends commenting to tell her how amazing she was to be there for them, how lovely it was that she cared so much. Her replies to the comments were huge long posts basically patting herself on the back. It reeked of desperation, but I let it go. BF had nothing to do with it, didn't ask for it, didn't reply to it.
He was further weirded out by it, I think, and subsequently didn't talk to her for months. Hasn't talked to her since then. At that time she asked for his daughter's phone number to text her about things, and he checked with her and she said she didn't want him to give her the number. So he ignored the request and Ex let it go.
Jump to yesterday. I spent NY's Eve and NY's day at BF's house. We had to run to the grocery store at 5pm for an ingredient for our turkey burgers, and got back about 5:30. I left for the night about 8pm. We headed out the door, him carrying my bag, and found a huge tote bag full of stuff on the porch. It had a card on top and was addressed to BF's daughter using a nickname he and his family have used for her since childhood.
I knew immediately who it was from and said, "Well, I have my guess as to who this is from." He said, "I'm sure you're right." Picked it up, put it inside the door. I was already going down to the car, but said, "That's really weird. So she came all the way out here and then didn't even knock?" Note that it was NOT there when we got back from the store.
He said, "I guess so!" I said, "I'm sure she saw my car in the driveway and that's why." He agreed. I asked if he'd talked to her recently and he said he hadn't spoken to her in months. I voiced my opinion that it was really weird, and asked why she continues to think she is daughter's mom or family. He said he didn't know. We got to my car and said our regular goodbyes and I left.
Key points:
She lives 40-45 minutes away. She drove out uninvited, without asking him, in the dark on a cold winter night. Upon arrival, she didn't even knock or ring the doorbell, instead leaving the Christmas gift on the porch by the door.
Found out later she'd also tagged BF in a post on FB for the first time in MONTHS. Something totally innocuous about a brewery opening nearby and how excited he surely was about it, but still. A post on her wall, tagging him, when they haven't talked in months.
Now that I've laid it all out for you....what do you think???
ETA: BF told me previously that his daughter has always been more weirded out than anything by Ex's attempts to be her mom/BFF. She tolerated the efforts more than appreciated them, at least in recent years as she's gotten older. So I'm not worried that his daughter is in any way attached to Ex, in fact, I think she'll view this gift thing as really odd. And for the record, I know BF finds the whole thing, and how it came about, to be quite odd, too!
As background:
I may have discussed it before, but BF dated a girl about 7 years ago for a little over a year. His daughter was young at the time and so she grew fairly close to the GF when they dated, especially since she was around their house so much. BF broke up with her because he couldn't see a future with her in a romantic sense. They remained very close friends in the following years. Much like Ex-H and I did during my solidly single years, they became each other's BF/GF stand-ins. They went to weddings together, they did holidays together on occasion, they spent birthdays together. They did a lot of things with his daughter, too. This continued all the way up to right before we started dating. They had done a gingerbread decorating expo as a threesome for Christmas and he'd gone to an event at Verizon Center with her in the first couple weeks we were dating.
When we started dating more seriously, we had a discussion wherein we both outlined that we were good friends with exes, and that as long as we were open about it and we were now re-allocating certain activities to one another as opposed to the ex (ie, birthdays spent with each other instead of with the exes), we wouldn't have any issues.
At some point within our first couple months of dating, his (long ago) Ex sent me a FB friend request out of the blue. I've never met her. It was weird. I told him about it, and he was pretty weirded out. She withdrew the request within a couple of hours, but it was already in the universe.
Later in the spring BF's cat got really sick. He contacted her for help since she had experience with what his cat was going through. She offered to help and ended up heavily involved for the next few days. She stayed over one night (his daughter was there as well) and they all stayed up all night trying to get the cat to eat, drink, giving her meds, etc. I wasn't thrilled, and it caused some tension, but I understood why he involved her ultimately. My main issue came on the day that he had to let the cat go. The three of them went to the vet and afterwards got some dinner. She offered to stay the night again, and he declined. I thought that was inappropriate of her to even suggest, but again....he told her no, so it was fine.
The next day she posted a HUGE Facebook status update about everything that had happened with the cat. She wrote about how much she loved BF and his daughter, how strong they were, how she had done everything she could to help. She posted pictures of herself hugging his daughter while she held the cat for the last time. The post resulted in all of her friends commenting to tell her how amazing she was to be there for them, how lovely it was that she cared so much. Her replies to the comments were huge long posts basically patting herself on the back. It reeked of desperation, but I let it go. BF had nothing to do with it, didn't ask for it, didn't reply to it.
He was further weirded out by it, I think, and subsequently didn't talk to her for months. Hasn't talked to her since then. At that time she asked for his daughter's phone number to text her about things, and he checked with her and she said she didn't want him to give her the number. So he ignored the request and Ex let it go.
Jump to yesterday. I spent NY's Eve and NY's day at BF's house. We had to run to the grocery store at 5pm for an ingredient for our turkey burgers, and got back about 5:30. I left for the night about 8pm. We headed out the door, him carrying my bag, and found a huge tote bag full of stuff on the porch. It had a card on top and was addressed to BF's daughter using a nickname he and his family have used for her since childhood.
I knew immediately who it was from and said, "Well, I have my guess as to who this is from." He said, "I'm sure you're right." Picked it up, put it inside the door. I was already going down to the car, but said, "That's really weird. So she came all the way out here and then didn't even knock?" Note that it was NOT there when we got back from the store.
He said, "I guess so!" I said, "I'm sure she saw my car in the driveway and that's why." He agreed. I asked if he'd talked to her recently and he said he hadn't spoken to her in months. I voiced my opinion that it was really weird, and asked why she continues to think she is daughter's mom or family. He said he didn't know. We got to my car and said our regular goodbyes and I left.
Key points:
She lives 40-45 minutes away. She drove out uninvited, without asking him, in the dark on a cold winter night. Upon arrival, she didn't even knock or ring the doorbell, instead leaving the Christmas gift on the porch by the door.
Found out later she'd also tagged BF in a post on FB for the first time in MONTHS. Something totally innocuous about a brewery opening nearby and how excited he surely was about it, but still. A post on her wall, tagging him, when they haven't talked in months.
Now that I've laid it all out for you....what do you think???
ETA: BF told me previously that his daughter has always been more weirded out than anything by Ex's attempts to be her mom/BFF. She tolerated the efforts more than appreciated them, at least in recent years as she's gotten older. So I'm not worried that his daughter is in any way attached to Ex, in fact, I think she'll view this gift thing as really odd. And for the record, I know BF finds the whole thing, and how it came about, to be quite odd, too!
Monday, December 29, 2014
On the heels of 2015...
I hope everyone had a very merry Christmas! Mine was quite nice. I spent Tuesday night with BF celebrating our Christmas. We went to Capital City Brewery for dinner, which is one of our favorite spots to stop. We then made a last minute trip to Best Buy. My beloved ipod Classic decided to completely die that day at work right before all my holiday travels. Unlike most of the masses these days, I prefer to have a separate gadget for my music, so I picked up an ipod Touch as my Christmas gift to myself. ;-)
Back at my place we exchanged gifts. BF went over the top with too many gifts, but it was a good mix of the ideas from my Etsy favorites and his own ideas. I got two cute pairs of earrings, some new Fitbit bands, a Stay Puft marshmallow man coffee mug (!!!) from Ghostbusters, and some Nebraska and Mizzou football gear! He did such a good job, and I think he really enjoyed his gifts from me as well. Successful first Christmas! I also LOVED the card he got me.
I left at the crack of dawn the next morning and my travels went very smoothly. The next few days were comprised of cookie baking, Christmas dinners, gift exchanges, shopping and watching the Nebraska bowl game. I also went to see "Big Eyes" with my mom. We were originally going to see "Wild", but it was sold out both times we tried to go, so this was our second choice. I actually really enjoyed it!
I got back yesterday around 5 pm after a hellish day of travel that started with a 4:10 am wakeup and included delayed flights, incredibly long security lines, airline changes, flight changes, hours spent in airports, and an almost lost bag. I was so glad to get home! The travel problems nixed my afternoon plans to hang out with BF and his daughter, so instead he came over after he dropped her off.
We ordered in pizza because the weather was crappy and my day was so long. It was nice to just spend time together after a hectic day!
Back to work today and I was not happy about it! I was really enjoying the time off. This work week is weird because of NY's. My office is open the full day on NY's Eve, so I will be here until 5 pm unless I decide to be brave and ask my supervisor for an early departure! Then I have Thursday off. I'll be driving out to BF's house after work on Wednesday, then driving back Thursday night so I can go to work Friday, then back there on Friday. Sigh. Neither of us can take that Friday off, so it's just a bummer!
Our New Year's Eve plans are incredibly low key. We're going to go out to dinner locally and then come back to watch the NY countdowns on TV, then toast and share our first NY's kiss at his house at midnight. :-) I'm really looking forward to it! I'm going to pick up some libations this evening in preparation!
Saturday is our year anniversary, which is craziness! He has his daughter until 6pm that evening (sigh) and then we'll head out for dinner at an undecided location. We'll be spending the night at a local hotel just for something different. The room has a whirlpool tub (yay!) and the hotel has a pool and hot tub, and it will just be nice to do something a little out of the ordinary!
I got BF a really lovely anniversary card,but that's it at this point. We just did Christmas gifts, so I don't know if either of us were expecting to do gifts for anniversary times. My thought is that a card and a night out is enough of a gift. Should I get something small just in case? I don't know what I should do.
Anyway, that's my holiday summary. I hope everyone is having a great end of the holiday season! :-)
Back at my place we exchanged gifts. BF went over the top with too many gifts, but it was a good mix of the ideas from my Etsy favorites and his own ideas. I got two cute pairs of earrings, some new Fitbit bands, a Stay Puft marshmallow man coffee mug (!!!) from Ghostbusters, and some Nebraska and Mizzou football gear! He did such a good job, and I think he really enjoyed his gifts from me as well. Successful first Christmas! I also LOVED the card he got me.
I left at the crack of dawn the next morning and my travels went very smoothly. The next few days were comprised of cookie baking, Christmas dinners, gift exchanges, shopping and watching the Nebraska bowl game. I also went to see "Big Eyes" with my mom. We were originally going to see "Wild", but it was sold out both times we tried to go, so this was our second choice. I actually really enjoyed it!
I got back yesterday around 5 pm after a hellish day of travel that started with a 4:10 am wakeup and included delayed flights, incredibly long security lines, airline changes, flight changes, hours spent in airports, and an almost lost bag. I was so glad to get home! The travel problems nixed my afternoon plans to hang out with BF and his daughter, so instead he came over after he dropped her off.
We ordered in pizza because the weather was crappy and my day was so long. It was nice to just spend time together after a hectic day!
Back to work today and I was not happy about it! I was really enjoying the time off. This work week is weird because of NY's. My office is open the full day on NY's Eve, so I will be here until 5 pm unless I decide to be brave and ask my supervisor for an early departure! Then I have Thursday off. I'll be driving out to BF's house after work on Wednesday, then driving back Thursday night so I can go to work Friday, then back there on Friday. Sigh. Neither of us can take that Friday off, so it's just a bummer!
Our New Year's Eve plans are incredibly low key. We're going to go out to dinner locally and then come back to watch the NY countdowns on TV, then toast and share our first NY's kiss at his house at midnight. :-) I'm really looking forward to it! I'm going to pick up some libations this evening in preparation!
Saturday is our year anniversary, which is craziness! He has his daughter until 6pm that evening (sigh) and then we'll head out for dinner at an undecided location. We'll be spending the night at a local hotel just for something different. The room has a whirlpool tub (yay!) and the hotel has a pool and hot tub, and it will just be nice to do something a little out of the ordinary!
I got BF a really lovely anniversary card,but that's it at this point. We just did Christmas gifts, so I don't know if either of us were expecting to do gifts for anniversary times. My thought is that a card and a night out is enough of a gift. Should I get something small just in case? I don't know what I should do.
Anyway, that's my holiday summary. I hope everyone is having a great end of the holiday season! :-)
Tuesday, December 23, 2014
Upswing
So last night after work I decided to go to the new PromptCare by my apartment. With traveling only a couple days away and with me still feeling so crappy, I wanted to be sure I hadn't acquired some sort of secondary infection. The place was fancy and new and there was nearly no wait, which was awesome. The Dr. I saw was also awesome and explained that basically, this is just the last chapter of the horrific flu that I had. My throat is hurting from all the coughing, and the coughing is often the last thing to go in this case. So he gave me a new RX for a cough medicine with hydrocodone in it. It's the strongest one he could give me and what he rec'd based on my coughing and how much it was disrupting everything.
It tastes disgusting, but I think it's really helping, so I'll suck it up! It does make me a bit sleepy, but luckily I just have one work day to get through and I can fight through the sleepiness. I slept really well last night and woke up feeling the best I've felt in days. Still nearly no voice, but I'm trying to rest it as much as I can and hoping that it will return by the end of the week!
After the Dr. visit I came home, ordered dinner and spent the evening wrapping gifts for BF and watching DVR. It was lovely, but lonely since BF has my cat right now. He's going to watch him while I'm out of town, and it made more logical sense to just leave him there Sunday night when I came home than to drive back this week to take him there. So it was just me at home with a pile of presents! I'm pretty happy with my gifts for BF even though they are pretty random!
I got him, in ranking order from silly to real gifts:
Boxers- because some of his look a little worn LOL
A stocking full of his favorite lip balm, body spray, candy and a meat thermometer (because he needs one, and it seemed funny to stick in there with that other stuff!)
A binder with proctector pages and a three hole punch to put all of his recipes in one place. He and his daughter (and now me) love finding things online to make, and he saves all the recipes, but they are EVERYWHERE in no organized form.
Redskins Christmas Ornament
George Foreman Grill-we love to grill, but during the winter season we need a substitute
Michigan State Hoodie Sweatshirt-his favorite college team, but he has no Michigan State gear!
So it's a very, very random collection of things, but I'm confident he'll like everything, and it's a lot of little things to open, so it should be fun. :-)
He's coming over tonight after work. I imagine we'll go out for dinner since my house is grocery-less in light of my upcoming travel tomorrow, then we'll exchange gifts and just get some quality time hanging out before we probably get to bed fairly early. My flight is at 6 am, so it's going to be a very early wake up call tomorrow! :-o
My holiday plans should be fun. If all goes as planned, I get into Omaha around 11 am and my mom will pick me up. We'll get a quick lunch at Taco Johns (tradition!) and then go to my brother and sister in law's house to make Christmas cookies. That night we'll go to my grandfather's house for dinner, and back at my mom's we're going to watch National Lampoon's Christmas Vacation to close out the evening. I'll also have some wrapping to do since I'm bringing a few presents and can't wrap them (unless I plan ahead to check my bag..which I may do).
Christmas Day will be back at my grandfather's house, and then I think the plan is for me to go to my brother's that night. We're going to watch Home Alone and just hang out, and then the day after I'll go back to my mom's. I'm hoping to see a couple of girlfriends at some point for breakfast/lunch, and other than that it will just be time spent hanging out with the family! I'm excited to give all my gifts, to see the family and friends, to see my mom's cats and my brother's dog. I love having away animals!
I haven't officially packed, but 95% of what I'm taking is stacked together in my room, ready to be packed. I'll do that tonight and be ready to go hopefully! I'm crossing my fingers that none of this crazy weather on the horizon across the country affects my travel. I'm hoping my super early flight helps me out, esp. since my layover is at Chicago O'Hare. :-o
On a separate note....I want to wish everyone a super happy Christmas and a wonderful holiday. I really love following along with all of your lives on your blogs, and I love sharing this window into my own life with you all. You guys are a great source of support and I really do feel like I have friends all over the place as a result of this blog. I wish you the merriest of holidays and even though I hope to post again before this, a fantastic new year! Cheers to a very happy and healthy and lucky and wonderful 2015! :-)
It tastes disgusting, but I think it's really helping, so I'll suck it up! It does make me a bit sleepy, but luckily I just have one work day to get through and I can fight through the sleepiness. I slept really well last night and woke up feeling the best I've felt in days. Still nearly no voice, but I'm trying to rest it as much as I can and hoping that it will return by the end of the week!
After the Dr. visit I came home, ordered dinner and spent the evening wrapping gifts for BF and watching DVR. It was lovely, but lonely since BF has my cat right now. He's going to watch him while I'm out of town, and it made more logical sense to just leave him there Sunday night when I came home than to drive back this week to take him there. So it was just me at home with a pile of presents! I'm pretty happy with my gifts for BF even though they are pretty random!
I got him, in ranking order from silly to real gifts:
Boxers- because some of his look a little worn LOL
A stocking full of his favorite lip balm, body spray, candy and a meat thermometer (because he needs one, and it seemed funny to stick in there with that other stuff!)
A binder with proctector pages and a three hole punch to put all of his recipes in one place. He and his daughter (and now me) love finding things online to make, and he saves all the recipes, but they are EVERYWHERE in no organized form.
Redskins Christmas Ornament
George Foreman Grill-we love to grill, but during the winter season we need a substitute
Michigan State Hoodie Sweatshirt-his favorite college team, but he has no Michigan State gear!
So it's a very, very random collection of things, but I'm confident he'll like everything, and it's a lot of little things to open, so it should be fun. :-)
He's coming over tonight after work. I imagine we'll go out for dinner since my house is grocery-less in light of my upcoming travel tomorrow, then we'll exchange gifts and just get some quality time hanging out before we probably get to bed fairly early. My flight is at 6 am, so it's going to be a very early wake up call tomorrow! :-o
My holiday plans should be fun. If all goes as planned, I get into Omaha around 11 am and my mom will pick me up. We'll get a quick lunch at Taco Johns (tradition!) and then go to my brother and sister in law's house to make Christmas cookies. That night we'll go to my grandfather's house for dinner, and back at my mom's we're going to watch National Lampoon's Christmas Vacation to close out the evening. I'll also have some wrapping to do since I'm bringing a few presents and can't wrap them (unless I plan ahead to check my bag..which I may do).
Christmas Day will be back at my grandfather's house, and then I think the plan is for me to go to my brother's that night. We're going to watch Home Alone and just hang out, and then the day after I'll go back to my mom's. I'm hoping to see a couple of girlfriends at some point for breakfast/lunch, and other than that it will just be time spent hanging out with the family! I'm excited to give all my gifts, to see the family and friends, to see my mom's cats and my brother's dog. I love having away animals!
I haven't officially packed, but 95% of what I'm taking is stacked together in my room, ready to be packed. I'll do that tonight and be ready to go hopefully! I'm crossing my fingers that none of this crazy weather on the horizon across the country affects my travel. I'm hoping my super early flight helps me out, esp. since my layover is at Chicago O'Hare. :-o
On a separate note....I want to wish everyone a super happy Christmas and a wonderful holiday. I really love following along with all of your lives on your blogs, and I love sharing this window into my own life with you all. You guys are a great source of support and I really do feel like I have friends all over the place as a result of this blog. I wish you the merriest of holidays and even though I hope to post again before this, a fantastic new year! Cheers to a very happy and healthy and lucky and wonderful 2015! :-)
Monday, December 22, 2014
Sick.
I've been sick for days. The wednesday night before my holiday party I felt off. I wasn't sure what the problem was, but I just didn't feel good. I went home and felt accomplished to have gotten my nails painted, as I felt so bad that even that was in question at one point.
Thursday I woke up feeling crappy. I desperately tried to rally as the day wore on. I went to my hair appt. even though my throat was hurting really badly and I had very little voice. My guess was that it was a sinus infection coming on, and that the sore throat was a yucky side effect. I went to the holiday party with barely any voice, feeling pretty lousy. It was loud and I had no appetite. I had no voice and spent my evening trying to be heard over the music and the people. I took pictures with friends and with BF, and I looked great. But I felt awful, and by 9pm I couldn't handle it anymore. I was exhausted, sick, and we had to leave.
Friday morning I woke up feeling like death. I called in sick and we went to the CVS Minute Clinic. The Dr. tested me for the flu on a whim and bam....there it was. Influenza A.
The next few days were an awful, awful blur. My throat was killing me, I was coughing like crazy, I had a 101 fever with accompanying chills/sweats. BF stayed until late Friday afternoon when he had to go pick up his daughter. I had to miss our plans that night to go see "A Christmas Carol" in Old Town Alexandria. They went without me, and then headed home because J, his daughter, hadn't had the flu shot.
BF came back over Monday after work, and I was still miserable. I didn't get back to work until Wednesday, and I felt pretty awful. Tamiflu was gone by Tuesday, fever gone so I could return to work, but I was barely functioning. Thursday and Friday weren't a ton better. I missed my second holiday party at my old firm on Friday.
Saturday I finally felt like maybe I was improving a bit. Still no voice, but the coughing, in particular overnight, was calming a bit and the sore throat was improving. Same thing on Sunday. However, at one point on sunday I coughed really hard and suddenly my ribs were hurting on the left side. They are still hurting today---I managed to actually hurt myself coughing.
Today I woke up with a sore throat, and my cough has felt like more of a problem again. I'm tired and frustrated and so OVER being sick.
I don't know if this is normal, residual flu crap, or a secondary infection or what. I predict I'm going to end up back at the CVS Minute Clinic tonight just to find out for sure. I'm supposed to fly to Omaha Wednesday, and I do NOT want to fly feeling like this. I'm supposed to celebrate Christmas with BF tomorrow night, and I do NOT want to feel like this. In general? I do NOT want to feel like this anymore!!! I truly have not had a voice to speak of in 10+ days!
Glad I took my feeling better energy last night to go wrap up my Christmas shopping, as I am NOT feeling it tonight. Tonight is probably Minute Clinic, wrapping presents and packing, and hopefully early to bed. I cannot handle this anymore!!
I don't want to even think about everything this flu has ruined....the holiday party I was so excited about. A Christmas Carol. The second holiday party. Holiday dinner with two girlfriends. Ugly sweater party on Saturday where I finally met some of BF's friends, but I had no voice to use, so I was about half as much of myself as I wanted to be. I'm tired of this thing ruining everything I'd been looking so forward to. I want my remaining Christmas to be left in tact!!
Thursday I woke up feeling crappy. I desperately tried to rally as the day wore on. I went to my hair appt. even though my throat was hurting really badly and I had very little voice. My guess was that it was a sinus infection coming on, and that the sore throat was a yucky side effect. I went to the holiday party with barely any voice, feeling pretty lousy. It was loud and I had no appetite. I had no voice and spent my evening trying to be heard over the music and the people. I took pictures with friends and with BF, and I looked great. But I felt awful, and by 9pm I couldn't handle it anymore. I was exhausted, sick, and we had to leave.
Friday morning I woke up feeling like death. I called in sick and we went to the CVS Minute Clinic. The Dr. tested me for the flu on a whim and bam....there it was. Influenza A.
The next few days were an awful, awful blur. My throat was killing me, I was coughing like crazy, I had a 101 fever with accompanying chills/sweats. BF stayed until late Friday afternoon when he had to go pick up his daughter. I had to miss our plans that night to go see "A Christmas Carol" in Old Town Alexandria. They went without me, and then headed home because J, his daughter, hadn't had the flu shot.
BF came back over Monday after work, and I was still miserable. I didn't get back to work until Wednesday, and I felt pretty awful. Tamiflu was gone by Tuesday, fever gone so I could return to work, but I was barely functioning. Thursday and Friday weren't a ton better. I missed my second holiday party at my old firm on Friday.
Saturday I finally felt like maybe I was improving a bit. Still no voice, but the coughing, in particular overnight, was calming a bit and the sore throat was improving. Same thing on Sunday. However, at one point on sunday I coughed really hard and suddenly my ribs were hurting on the left side. They are still hurting today---I managed to actually hurt myself coughing.
Today I woke up with a sore throat, and my cough has felt like more of a problem again. I'm tired and frustrated and so OVER being sick.
I don't know if this is normal, residual flu crap, or a secondary infection or what. I predict I'm going to end up back at the CVS Minute Clinic tonight just to find out for sure. I'm supposed to fly to Omaha Wednesday, and I do NOT want to fly feeling like this. I'm supposed to celebrate Christmas with BF tomorrow night, and I do NOT want to feel like this. In general? I do NOT want to feel like this anymore!!! I truly have not had a voice to speak of in 10+ days!
Glad I took my feeling better energy last night to go wrap up my Christmas shopping, as I am NOT feeling it tonight. Tonight is probably Minute Clinic, wrapping presents and packing, and hopefully early to bed. I cannot handle this anymore!!
I don't want to even think about everything this flu has ruined....the holiday party I was so excited about. A Christmas Carol. The second holiday party. Holiday dinner with two girlfriends. Ugly sweater party on Saturday where I finally met some of BF's friends, but I had no voice to use, so I was about half as much of myself as I wanted to be. I'm tired of this thing ruining everything I'd been looking so forward to. I want my remaining Christmas to be left in tact!!
Wednesday, December 10, 2014
Picture Pages
And now for a picture post, just because I can!
Good times ahead tomorrow! Super excited for my luxurious hair appt. for a trim and a blowout to get the day started. Tonight will be painting my nails, gathering all my things to take tomorrow, and hopefully a workout to start the night off right....and to make me feel less guilty about all the eating and drinking that will take place tomorrow! :-)
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| Gold Digger Glitter Eye Top Coat |
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| Eyes and cheeks, minus the gold above! |
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| My standard holiday party earrings :-) |
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| My two layers of gold polish |
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| Not the most comfortable, but they're cute! |
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| This is a scandalous amount of cleavage for me. Ha! |
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| Mirror selfie as a preview |
Tuesday, December 9, 2014
10 Things
* I'm so hooked on the Serial podcast that I now regularly listen to two other podcasts that exist solely to DISCUSS Serial. Can't believe tomorrow is only Wednesday...
** I picked up my party dress from the tailor last night and now I suddenly love it after being MEH about it since it's purchase. That may also have to do with the fact that my only frame of reference prior to that was the dressing room at Macy's, which was bathed in DRESSING ROOM LIGHTING, which is the devil. I already own shoes that will work with the dress, I'm going with jewelry I already have.
*** There is a strong possibility of a picture filled post in the next day or two, detailing all aspects of Holiday Party attire, just because I can. :-)
**** The weather outside is frightful, but not snowy. It's cold and rainy, which is one of the worst combinations. I have to go to the trainer at 8:30 PM tonight and it's a real bummer knowing I'll have to leave the house after getting to hang out where it's warm and dry for an hour or so first. No trainer on Thursday because of the party, though.
***** I haven't received any Christmas cards yet, which feels a little surprising. However, they are not as popular as they used to be, and I don't often send them anymore, so I can't complain. They are fun additions to my mailbox, though!
****** Last night at Ulta I bought this sparkly, pixie dust-ish nail polish for the party. I also got a couple of eye shadow colors and a golden, glittery eye shadow topcoat I'm going to try out. I'm weirdly excited about each of these items! Please see **. :-)
******* Can't wait to get started on my Christmas shopping this week! I am a late starter, that happens often. :-) I pretty much know what I'm getting everyone, so it shouldn't be too challenging. Most will be online shopping, too. I ship everything for my family straight to Omaha and so only my gifts for friends, BF and BF's daughter will come here. I found a cute pair of earrings on Etsy for BF's daughter that I think she'll really like.
******** I've pretty well sorted out BF's Christmas gift. I'm going with things I know he wants, no matter how practical or boring they seem to me! Right now the main gifts are a Michigan State hoodie and a George Foreman grill. His is on death's door, and we love to grill, even in the wintertime, so faux grill it is! I also plan to fill a stocking with things that are a mix of practical and fun, like socks, boxers, lip balm, a Christmas ornament or two (as he has woefully few personal ones), etc. I may get him a dress shirt or two, I may get him Big Bang Theory Season 6 on Blu Ray...it all depends on how generous I'm feeling and how much everything I'm planning to get him costs.
I decided to help the poor man out and gave him a link to my list of Etsy Favorites. He was really struggling with what to get me, and has been struggling on what to get his family and his daughter. He did a good job on my birthday, so that counts for something, so I don't ultimately see anything wrong with helping him out a little. I guess it's not much different than him asking me what I want! I don't want gift giving to be stressful, you know? I'm more interested in our time baking cookies with his daughter, or watching Christmas movies in the coming days, or him showing up on my arm for my holiday party.
********* I feel like Clark Griswold waiting to have my review and get my bonus memo. My speculation is that I'll get all the numbers on Friday, December 19th, as last year we got them on the corresponding Friday. We don't get the money until the January 15th check, but I'm a big nerd and I like to plan out how it will be allocated once I find out. Last year was my firm's worst year since it's inception, and this year was it's best, so I'm hoping for good things, but reminding myself that bonuses are just that...bonuses!
********** I have thirty three minutes left until I can leave this office, commute home and spend a little time on my couch, eating leftover homemade tortilla soup from Tuesday and relaxing under the glow of all the Christmas lights in my apartment with my little Riley cat. Can't wait. :-)
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