tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post8742774621885030609..comments2023-07-16T09:27:23.139-04:00Comments on Once in A Blue DC Moon: What's in a name?bluemoonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17824559705320935052noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-21760909339413616872018-04-26T20:01:28.798-04:002018-04-26T20:01:28.798-04:00Typo, I meant that I will *not* take on his entire...Typo, I meant that I will *not* take on his entire hyphenated name. :)Sabrina!https://www.blogger.com/profile/11129492543488938085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-20573806651815223522018-04-26T19:59:14.672-04:002018-04-26T19:59:14.672-04:00I feel you on the struggle! I don't like that...I feel you on the struggle! I don't like that it is "expected" a woman will change her name. I also don't care much about my last name. I love my dad but ours is a common Indian last name and all it really identifies is where my family is from in India (where literally a million other people with that same last name live).<br /><br />Keeper has a hyphenated last name, his mom kept hers and hyphenated the 3 kids. He identifies with both names. His sister was happy to ditch the cumbersome name when she got married. I will take on his entire hyphenated name. For now, the agreement is that I will take his dad's last name and we'll socially be The HisDadsName. Our kids will get that name. But he's not changing his and isn't sure he wants to socially change it (Facebook, email). I'm only considering it because I don't mind his dad's last name. I dislike his mom's last name so if that were my only choice, I'd keep my birth name.<br /><br />So I have a feeling people will still refer to us as the HisMomsName-HisDadsName. Which annoys me, but I'll just have to correct people and hopefully over the years, people will just refer to us as the HisDadsName family.<br /><br />Will you consider sharing pics from the wedding? I understand not wanting to share identifying ones for privacy, but would be cool to see the setting! <br /><br />Best of luck for you in the coming weeks!Sabrina!https://www.blogger.com/profile/11129492543488938085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-47957850000118157262018-04-25T16:35:02.727-04:002018-04-25T16:35:02.727-04:00Emailed! :-) I agree with you about the name, an...Emailed! :-) I agree with you about the name, and although I know it's old fashioned, I still like some of the old fashioned traditions. It will be an adjustment, but I will certainly get used to it. It's meaningful and I want to share that with BF for sure.bluemoonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17824559705320935052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-87302872394480791382018-04-25T16:31:32.803-04:002018-04-25T16:31:32.803-04:00No hyphenation because ultimately I'm giving i...No hyphenation because ultimately I'm giving it up, anyway, so I don't want to hold onto my ex's name any longer than I need to. I look at it sort of like ripping off a band aid and diving whole-heartedly into the new name. :) I actually sort of had an epiphany writing this post yesterday. While my professional identity really is associated with my current last name, I realized that if BF's last name was something easy and nice I would switch in a heartbeat. Sooooo....found the real truth in my priorities there! :-)<br /><br />I'm all about this easy wedding. I'm really looking forward to it and can't believe it's only 22 days!bluemoonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17824559705320935052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-19640423779271341022018-04-25T15:07:12.583-04:002018-04-25T15:07:12.583-04:00It is a big decision. But, I think you may find yo...It is a big decision. But, I think you may find you would love to share a name with BF. And, people will learn it pretty quickly! I have had some major changes in the past 1.5/2 years. If you send me an email I can send you a link to my now private blog! mcathleenw at gmail dot com (ps...not sure why I wrote it out that way. ha. I feel like other people do, so maybe I should???)MCWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05573175013345702775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-57101823987430386572018-04-25T13:46:33.552-04:002018-04-25T13:46:33.552-04:00It's a big decision to make, IMO. You've ...It's a big decision to make, IMO. You've made a career out of the name you have now. Do you think you will hyphenate for a few months for work to catch up or just dive in with the new name? I don't know how that all works, TBH. I would only take someone's name because like you, my last name now is my step fathers and I cannot stand him. So, I don't have any attachments to it at all. I prefer my mothers maiden name, and I've considered changing it to that, but at the end of the day, I'm lazy. My signature never includes my last name anyway, and it's so easy to spell, although people have a hard time with it for some stupid reason. It's either they can't spell Danielle or they can't spell my last name. I don't get it. <br /><br />Glad to hear that wedding stuff is pretty much done! Miles' sister did wedding eve nacho night, which was fun, but a lot of work. I like casual weddings, you can 'let your hair down' and people seem more at ease. Daniellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04106092363732337130noreply@blogger.com