tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post8518890247490160477..comments2023-07-16T09:27:23.139-04:00Comments on Once in A Blue DC Moon: When LED candles come bearing flowers...bluemoonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17824559705320935052noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-46199771377814907632012-11-01T16:24:14.446-04:002012-11-01T16:24:14.446-04:00Took care of it this afternoon, and it went over r...Took care of it this afternoon, and it went over really okay actually. Pretty much not a big deal, and I think hanging out in the group setting or even solo movies if that happens incidentally wouldn't be a big deal.bluemoonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17824559705320935052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-26572898072531273762012-11-01T16:23:34.288-04:002012-11-01T16:23:34.288-04:00Already did, and he was very cool about it. :)Already did, and he was very cool about it. :)bluemoonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17824559705320935052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-42864659399407175632012-11-01T12:23:36.377-04:002012-11-01T12:23:36.377-04:00Good for you for trying something new. Sucks that...Good for you for trying something new. Sucks that you don't like him but as everyone else has already said, that's ok. Just be honest with him.ThatAshGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16625332571286408790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-51266184324834104942012-11-01T11:19:51.639-04:002012-11-01T11:19:51.639-04:00Three thoughts:
1. The guy is nice but also aggre...Three thoughts:<br /><br />1. The guy is nice but also aggressive (in a pushy, unattractive way, not in a take charge manner that some women go for). <br />2. He seems a little socially awkward, or at least isn't good at reading body language. <br />3. Just be honest with him, you just don't feel it. I've been told that on a few ocassions after a first or second date, and certainly didn't hurt me. Judging by your next post, that sounds like what you'll be doing. SMBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14424979479059099898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-7691074512662474122012-10-31T21:46:34.125-04:002012-10-31T21:46:34.125-04:00Thank you...I think I really needed to hear that. ...Thank you...I think I really needed to hear that. So many people tell me that I'm being too quick to dismiss, that I'm putting too much value on an instant spark. I've really started to question my judgment, and the reasons I like people, and it's really screwing with my head. <br /><br />I need to remind myself that a spark doesn't have to mean that I want to immediately throw the guy down and start making out with him, but that it can also mean that he can make me laugh easily, or make me flush with something happy and anticipatory just by glancing at me, or that conversation flows with little effort. Chemistry is not only physical, but interpersonal...and I just don't have it with this guy.<br /><br />Is it disappointing? Sure. It would be nice to have met someone IRL, to have it come about naturally for once. It would be nice if he was the guy who brought me flowers AND butterflies. But this time? Not it.<br /><br />Thank you again. :)bluemoonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17824559705320935052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-52276744597072983182012-10-31T21:12:07.329-04:002012-10-31T21:12:07.329-04:00Its not that you're broken (and I feel the sam...Its not that you're broken (and I feel the same way when I don't like nice guys), and its not that you don't like him because he is "nice to you" you just don't like him. You're just not that into him. There needs to be something there. A good conversation, a matching personality, even if he isn't "your type" there needs to be a starter to light the flame, and he doesn't have it. <br /><br />I would just tell him that you are not looking to date, and don't want to be anything more than friends. Or some other excuse like that, whatever people say. I don't know, I don't do the friends thing, I'm a total jerk and do the fade away. Its my favorite.Daniellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04106092363732337130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-20872602138585808622012-10-31T16:24:50.177-04:002012-10-31T16:24:50.177-04:00Ha, nice point! :) I just didn't feel anythin...Ha, nice point! :) I just didn't feel anything, so I couldn't force it.<br /><br />I would like to keep him around in the same capacity we met, I'm not sure about hanging out solo. Maybe too awkward? We'll see.<br /><br />I definitely have a problem with bad boys. Or one bad boy. I feel suffocated by sweetness after ONE date with a nice guy, and I immediately crave the other one. I'm SUCH A CLICHE.bluemoonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17824559705320935052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-18914003205591766242012-10-31T16:22:02.809-04:002012-10-31T16:22:02.809-04:00I know, I just hate that someone finally did somet...I know, I just hate that someone finally did something sweet for me like the flowers thing, and I can't make myself click with him. Instead, I pine for assholes. :/bluemoonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17824559705320935052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-75362590689787780862012-10-31T16:03:45.676-04:002012-10-31T16:03:45.676-04:00Dude, don't be so hard on yourself! If you'...Dude, don't be so hard on yourself! If you're not feeling it, you're not feeling it - and that's totally fine :) There has to be some level of attraction and if it's not there, it won't work. Good for you for at least going out with him :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-42620180662037012022012-10-31T16:00:51.595-04:002012-10-31T16:00:51.595-04:00You do NOT need to feel bad for not liking him, Bl...You do NOT need to feel bad for not liking him, Bluemoon! Not at all. It's wonderful to be treated nicely by a sweet guy who is into you, but if you were obligated to like and kiss every guy who was sweet, you'd have oral herpes and no sense of self.<br /><br />Could you keep him around as a friend, an activity partner? <br /><br />Sadly, we all love the bad boys. I've got a good guy chasing me right now and I feel suffocated, meanwhile my heart still pines for the bad boy who behaved like a jerk and broke my heart. :/Sabrinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06711470733997117332noreply@blogger.com