tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post8224165457517810373..comments2023-07-16T09:27:23.139-04:00Comments on Once in A Blue DC Moon: Love Languages are a real thing--Go figure!bluemoonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17824559705320935052noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-34217868355051753612015-04-27T17:03:48.549-04:002015-04-27T17:03:48.549-04:00I have never read that! Maybe I should look into ...I have never read that! Maybe I should look into it...<br /><br />It is kind of like a punch in the stomach when friends get engaged/married. The past couple of years I have had my MUCH younger cousins get married! It's not easy.<br /><br />I have always felt like for me I would just know and it would happen quickly. My mom has even said that to me...With RJ I have felt that way for awhile and I am very thankful that we are on the same page in terms of a timeline for marriage and kids. <br /><br />Enjoy where you are and enjoy that loving man you have!MCWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05573175013345702775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-41435073742191908322015-04-25T15:13:03.287-04:002015-04-25T15:13:03.287-04:00I love this post. Because even the most rational,...I love this post. Because even the most rational, level-headed-but-has-real-emotions women (aka you, bluemoon) still get affected by "engagement season." It's perfectly normal to assess your own relationship when you see people moving in together, getting engaged, etc. And it's frustrating when people innocently ask "sooo, when are you guys doing X?"<br /><br />But everyone's pace is so different. I,too, say I wouldn't stick around for 4 yrs without engagement. For another woman, marriage is just a piece paper. And some of my friends tell me "you've been with this guy for nearly 1.5 yrs and you're not living together?!" Nope, we are not. And that is fine for now.<br /><br />The 5 Love Languages is COMPLETELY REAL! That book was really enlightening to me.Sabrina!https://www.blogger.com/profile/11129492543488938085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-10751522959257960012015-04-23T11:41:30.958-04:002015-04-23T11:41:30.958-04:00It's a good piece of advice, so I'm not ma...It's a good piece of advice, so I'm not mad it turned up twice here! :-) I know logically that this is a good pace for a relationship, and that sometimes people progress even more slowly and THAT'S OK! :-) I just need to avoid getting caught up in the wedding craziness around me and remind myself that I've been there, done that, and now is the time for me to take my time, enjoy it, and really make sure things are good in each phase (dating, living together) before leaping to the next benchmark.<br /><br />Thank you!bluemoonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17824559705320935052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-87443319835527295132015-04-23T11:39:57.505-04:002015-04-23T11:39:57.505-04:00That quote is such a good thing to remember. It&#...That quote is such a good thing to remember. It's so easy to know everything is good logically, but to be swept up in the tidal wave of what is happening in everyone else's lives! I need to remember how truly valuable taking my time with this relationship has been, and that so far it's served me very well. I definitely agree that we're on the same page, excluding the moments when I'm getting caught up in the crazy. ;-) We know we want to be together, we expect to be together. That should be enough! bluemoonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17824559705320935052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-72532226914234907252015-04-22T21:00:07.903-04:002015-04-22T21:00:07.903-04:00I was just about to write 'Comparison is the t...I was just about to write 'Comparison is the thief of joy' when I saw the above commenter did so! But it's completely true. I'm guilty of this as well. It's hard for me to see literally all of my family and friends married with kids and I am NOWHERE near that but comparing my situation to theirs is not healthy or productive. I don't think your relationship has moved slow. I think moving in after a year of dating is a perfectly acceptable time! But I've learned that there really is no 'normal' when it comes to anything in life! Relationships are just one of those things. They all move at their own pace in their own organic way. You are happy. Live in that feeling!!JBeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11544038103802020393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-50890534819234973902015-04-22T19:30:48.408-04:002015-04-22T19:30:48.408-04:00"Comparison is the thief of Joy"
You gu..."Comparison is the thief of Joy"<br /><br />You guys are moving at a pace you are comfortable at. I don't see anything wrong with that. AT ALL. I think "Marriage season" makes women crazy, to be honest. Plus, like you said, you don't want to pressure him into putting a ring on it. Yeah, it needs to happen sometime. I don't think you are crazy for wanting that! It signifies that you guys are a done deal, this is it. No more dating pool. Onward to another stage in life. <br /><br />It seems like he is on the same page as you, but doesn't want to rush into anything, which I understand. I think that by your second anniversary you'll have a proposal, to be honest. He doesn't seem the type to draw it out, at least that's the vibe I get. Enjoy this time now, you won't get it back.Daniellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04106092363732337130noreply@blogger.com