tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post5558394520797201229..comments2023-07-16T09:27:23.139-04:00Comments on Once in A Blue DC Moon: ISO: Keymasterbluemoonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17824559705320935052noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-20444933670506231832012-09-20T16:59:59.918-04:002012-09-20T16:59:59.918-04:00WOO HOO. Do it. People like that need to realize...WOO HOO. Do it. People like that need to realize how badly they treat people. They think because they aren't actively being cruel that it doesn't hurt. But it does. Neglect and indifference is just a different type of cruelty. ThatAshGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16625332571286408790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-54812944428276648882012-09-20T10:17:21.881-04:002012-09-20T10:17:21.881-04:00@Ash: True. 9 times out of 10 I've said yes t...@Ash: True. 9 times out of 10 I've said yes to him, and I know I have myself to blame for a good portion of how this dynamic has evolved. I made everything so easy for him, I didn't require effort or follow through. I may have verbally demanded it, but I always gave in. There are some changes coming his way, I assure you of that. We'll see how he likes being treated like he treats me.bluemoonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17824559705320935052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-36508621677751501762012-09-20T10:05:50.325-04:002012-09-20T10:05:50.325-04:00He's taking advantage. And it seems like you ...He's taking advantage. And it seems like you always HAVE been there whenever he wanted you so what incentive does he have to change? Say no a few times, blow him off and see if that changes his behavior.ThatAshGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16625332571286408790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-69147454449347245942012-09-20T09:29:34.147-04:002012-09-20T09:29:34.147-04:00@Danielle: Everything you said about Artboy is pro...@Danielle: Everything you said about Artboy is probably true. I won't lie, it hurts to believe that, but if I look at things objectively...there's not much choice. <br /><br />I am going to do as you suggested and back off, and see what happens. Like I told Ames above, I'm not good at cold turkey quitting, so I'm going to see if I can just alter my reaction to him, because he WILL contact me again.bluemoonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17824559705320935052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-21927211422574090122012-09-20T09:27:58.447-04:002012-09-20T09:27:58.447-04:00@Ames: It is definitely easier said than done, but...@Ames: It is definitely easier said than done, but I'm trying to remind myself of the accumulated list of all of these kinds of behaviors. I make no guarantees, and I've never been good at cold turkey breaks, but we'll see how it goes. At the bare minimum, I need to work on laying down a line and demanding respect...and if I don't get it, I don't engage.<br /><br />Feeling sketchy about SC because of the scheduling issues this week, but I'm not totally ruling him out yet.bluemoonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17824559705320935052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-90260282062911624372012-09-20T09:26:22.023-04:002012-09-20T09:26:22.023-04:00@Ash: It hadn't been that way for awhile, but ...@Ash: It hadn't been that way for awhile, but lately the attitude is just wearing on me. He is just so damn certain I'll be there no matter how he treats me, whenever he wants me, and just put up with being ignored/discarded/whatever in the meantime. Working on changing that, one way or another.<br /><br />RE: the key, I'm going to go with one of my neighbors, I think. Either that or I'm burying a key outside my building in the bushes, LOL.bluemoonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17824559705320935052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-11409078219363609102012-09-19T15:23:26.701-04:002012-09-19T15:23:26.701-04:00I don't have family here, well, they live like...I don't have family here, well, they live like 20 minutes from me. I should give her a key... Anyway, my best friend just moved, so there's that. I have no one I could trust to give a key to. What I'm going to do is keep a copy in my desk at work, JIC, since I trust the guys I work with.<br /><br />As for Artboy, you are nothing to him, he is taking advantage of you, he knows you will let him, so he keeps doing it. I hate to say it, but the more you realize it yourself, the sooner you can cut him out of your life. A friendship is a 2 way street, and he doesn't seem interested in really being your friend. Do yourself a favor and don't initiate texts with him, then watch his behavior for yourself. Notice when he texts you and want he asks for or wants when he does. <br /><br />As for SC, perfect response, very nice. I know the whole availability thing might be a turn off, but as long as its not "I have no life besides you!!" style, I think this guy is a good find. Daniellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04106092363732337130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-66237931589344523042012-09-19T13:54:18.301-04:002012-09-19T13:54:18.301-04:00It's so easy for people (like me :)) to just s...It's so easy for people (like me :)) to just say to cut him out but until you feel it yourself, what anyone else says really doesn't matter much because you have to feel it. Things like this will hopefully push you in the direction of locking HIM out for good. When someone isn't there for you when you really need them but is more than willing to be there on their terms, eff them. <br /><br />I feel the same way. I don't have family here and very few geographically close friends. I'm going to just start leaving a key in my office so if I get desperate, I can always come back into the city. <br /><br />I'm so sorry he didn't come by but I'm so happy SC seems like a stand-up guy and he gets one more smiley face in my book!!! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5158112018214983762.post-24413009230547981802012-09-19T12:21:43.381-04:002012-09-19T12:21:43.381-04:00Artboy needs to go. Seems like more often than no...Artboy needs to go. Seems like more often than not, you end up upset after speaking with him. That, and you deserve better. <br /><br />I totally get where you're coming from though. I live in the city alone. My parents are just over 1 hour away so although they are a possibility, I've never given them a key. Thankfully my superintendent lives in the building so I just buzz her because God knows I've locked myself out of the building getting the mail. Giving it to a neighbor would work, presuming you're comfortable enough to do that and you think they would be a reliable contact. If it weren't for my super, I'd be in the same boat so it makes me think.ThatAshGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16625332571286408790noreply@blogger.com